Recently there was a post that complained about the quality of this sub. It was removed because it offered nothing to improve the situation. In the hopes of bringing some more interesting content to RPW I am going to address some of the posts I personally find to be problematic and continue to crop up on a continual basis.

  1. This is not a place to moan about your lost virginity or your n count. This is not forgiveness r us. If you are suffering from guilt, see a priest or a minister. If you are only going to focus on past mistakes and not make any effort to improve things then you are not helping yourself or the women who read here.

  2. This space is owned and run by men. If you don’t like it, don’t visit. Yes, there are some asshole men who comment here, but the mods are doing their best to keep them at bay. Instead, appreciate the male perspective. It is one of the few places you will get honest advice from experienced men.

  3. If you are a not in a relationship, this is not a place to write about your hopes and dreams for a future relationship unless you are making plans to achieve it. It is one thing to ask for advice on how to achieve specific goals. It is another to wax poetically about how things will be, when you are sitting at home waiting for opportunity to just drop in on you.

  4. This is not a place just for trad con or Christian women. There are women from all walks of life who read here. That includes stay at home wives and working wives, liberals and conservatives, childfree women and mothers, and so forth. The common denominator should be the desire to find a good man and keep him.

  5. The wall is not a death sentence. The number of young women who are obsessing about getting old has gotten ridiculous.

  6. If you are blaming all your problems on feminism, you are not being self-reflective.

  7. This is a place for women to share advice, but some women have no business sharing advice because they have no wisdom or experience from which to draw. A nineteen-year-old who tells a woman in a decade or longer marriage to leave her husband is out of line on so many counts.

  8. Just as it takes time for women to learn how to be a good partner, it takes time for men to learn how to lead. The expectations that a man in his twenties should have everything figured out is unrealistic.

  9. Submission is a gift that a woman gives a man who is committed and has proven his ability to lead. It is not to be given lightly to just anyone. Furthermore, submission is not an excuse to avoid responsibility. You cannot expect a man to take care of you and not make an effort to pull some of your own weight. He is your partner, not your father. Grow the fuck up.

  10. If you are not going to contribute to keep this sub a valuable resource, you are part of the problem in its demise. This is an opportunity for you to voice your preferences on how to make things better. Please do so.

There will be those who will ask what gives me the right to make these assertions. For one, I have been reading and commenting here for years, although I deleted an old account a couple of years back. Second, I have been married to one man for 40 years, raised three children, have been a SAHM and a working mom with a full-time career. I am married to a man who needs a great deal of control in our marriage and reading here helps me to understand his perspective better.

What I would like to see is more posts from women who have been in long term relationships and how they approach some of the problems they encounter as wives of dominant men. I look at RPW as a place for women to discuss the benefits and drawbacks of being married to an “alpha male” not as a hand-book to land one. You cannot control attraction. As it has been pointed out numerous times, an alpha male is not the perfect mate. However, some of us ended up with one anyway.