Threatpoint Created the Puerarchy

I am not a puerarch - I will try to be a patriarch or die trying - but I find this part incredibly insightful:

The problem of threatpoint not only arises because it puts unilateral control in the hands of only one partner (with no fear of repercussion), but also because that it puts that control in the hands of the women in the relationship- the one who craves her man to be the dominant one.

This sounds indeed like a marriage killer in places and amongst people who were raised in female empowered marriage (thankfully we didn't) because it could lead to this feedback cycle: both man and women subconsciously know the deal - they have a fight - women threatens divorce and that also means alimony etc. - guy is scared and backs off - he loses dominance points - THEREFORE he loses attractiveness points in the eyes of his wife - THEREFORE she is actually one step closer to actual divorce - therefore the next such threat will be more serious and so on.

Americans, this is basically what is happening in your circles?

I guess I am in a very lucky situation that we are we are Eastern Europeans and I know how my wife's family and whole village would shame her like a failure if she would divorce me so I guess I can pull off the traditional family stuff, even though we moved to the West, but if we were raised in circumstances where people are conscious of this then it can be indeed so destructive that basically marriage gets too dangerous.

Shit. This really does not have a solution. Other than the obvious one: you have to shame the living crap out of divorced women. This worked and could work.

I have another solution but I guess you will not like it: if you marry a 34 year old woman why would she divorce when she is already hitting the wall? Of course the answer to the question why would you marry a 34 year old is kids. Kids are the only reason why marry anyone. I think even gay marriage is largely invented by people who want kids by surrogacy or something because otherwise just why. You marry whenever you want kids more than sex or romance. Marriage is not a romantic institution, it is not for romance, not for sex, as long as you want this never marry. Marriage is for kids. Once you want kids you can marry a wall hitting but still fertile woman. This only happens when you want kids much more than sex with attractive young women.