The article: https://archive.today/ocr0k

This article is a great example of the male hamster at work. Here we have a male feminist realizing that he doesn't trust his wife, because she is a woman. This of course is a huge social issue, for which men are entirely at fault.

Trust. Well, the lack thereof. Generally speaking, we (men) do not believe things when they're told to us by women. Well, women other than our mothers or teachers or any other woman who happens to be an established authority figure. Do we think women are pathological liars? No. But, does it generally take longer for us to believe something if a woman tells it to us than it would if a man told us the exact same thing? Definitely!

This conversation is how, after five months of marriage, eight months of being engaged, and another year of whatever the hell we were doing before we got engaged, I realized I don't trust my wife.

This is a pretty good point that he makes, yet rather than go into why that is, the author chose to ignore that completely and make a sales pitch for the "Listen and Believe" mentality, and dive into some racial politics for good measure (this is huffpo after all.)

Here is how he wraps up the article:

So how do we remedy this? And can it even be remedied? I don't know. This distrust of women's feelings is so ingrained, so commonplace that I'm not even sure we (men) realize it exists. I can do one thing, though. The next time my wife tells me how upset she is about something I'm not sure she should be that upset about, trust her. After five months of marriage, eight months of being engaged, and another year of whatever the hell we were doing before we got engaged, it's the least I can do.

Again, rather than address why this "problem" exists, the best thing to do is just Listen and Believe.

The author is absolutely right in his assessment that many men have a hard time believing women, especially when their feelings are involved. The reason for this is pretty apparent to anyone willing to look.

Men, even those raised to be a good supplicating beta, understand at a basic level the difference between power talk and straight talk.

If you haven't read through Powertalk and other Language Categories from the sidebar, now would be a good time.

Women are usually far more skilled at powertalk than men. Most of them instinctively understand that you don't say things because they're true, you say things to get what you want. If they're true, that's just a coincidence.

And most men, to some extent, realize this. This is what the author is dancing around. The simple fact is, men don't trust women because women have repeatedly shown that they are not deserving of trust. Life experience teaches men that women's default method of communication is geared not toward the truth, but toward getting something they want.

They're afraid of the creation of a sort of hybrid, a man who understands powertalk well enough to see through their bullshit, but not well enough to create his own bullshit and actually thus BE attractive. That's why they use the term "rapist"... because such a man is indeed frighteningly like a rapist... he ignores social defenses against unattractive men (because he can READ powertalk), but he can't make the leap to being an attractive man (because he cannot WRITE powertalk).

This is what is happening more and more. This is why Listen and Believe has to be pushed so hard. With the internet allowing information to be shared, men are increasingly becoming aware of the way that women use power talk, but are not learning how to use it themselves. More men becoming this "hybrid" as /u/Whisper calls it means less BB, but not more AF. Basically, these are the MGTOW, and this is the reason why they are so disgusting to women.

Women's power is manipulation of men. The mere existance of a man who won't be manipulated is an attack on the feminine primacy that feminists have worked so hard to build.