This thread from the AskWomen subreddit is an interesting example of what goes through the minds of attractive woman when they are complimented/approached by unattractive men. (screen capture here).
Note that the top comment is one that admits a slightly uncomfortable truth: compliments from attractive people carry more weight.
I always appreciate compliments, but honestly they have more weight when they're coming from attractive people.
The response admits a more uncomfortable truth: compliments from unattractive men can be insulting:
I feel mean admitting it, but sometimes a compliment from a guy I am not attracted to is like a job offer from a company I am not interested in. It's not really all that flattering, and depending how badly it's done, it can feel a bit insulting.
The next response gets to the raw truth: being hit on by unattractive men is an honest insult.
When unattractive men have hit on me, I have honestly been insulted. It's sort of like having an amazing degree and work experience, and someone seriously asking you if you want a minimum wage job.
Note that this last commenter is obviously an attractive woman - she's says that, "Being hit on has grown tedious," and actually says, "If you're going to scrape your fingernails against my scar tissue, I'd prefer you be cute."
Further responses talk about how "red pill" her statement is, probably because it is the reality of how most attractive women think:
Your edit brings up many legitimate complaints that many women deal with, but none of them have anything to do with you believing ugly people are lesser thans that insult you by thinking they could get a date with you. That's why you have so many comments calling attention to this. This is red pill type thinking.
Reply to the above:
I mean, she's being honest. And she's definitely not alone in that thinking, in my experience.
And this response shows the importance of grooming:
It has a point when for example, for a date I put on full makeup, shave everything, wear nice clothes and have a nice hairstyle, while he doesn't even bother to shave or put on anything nicer than a shirt and jeans. That's an immediate put-off.
Lessons to be learned here:
- If you approach a woman to flirt with her and she finds your SMV to be beneath hers, she'll probably take it as an insult. This explains many of the harsh rejections that you'll see.
- If your SMV is low, monk mode is your friend. Work on yourself until you get your SMV to a reasonable level. The PUA "fake it until you make it" isn't going to help if your SMV is below average.
- Your grooming is an important component of your SMV.
- Attractive women are tired of receiving complements and getting hit on constantly. Don't be like the other men who fawn over attractive women, smothering them with complements. Now you understand where negging came from - at first, it make people stand out from the other men.
- The truth can be uncomfortable/inconvenient/ugly but the truth will also help you understand and succeed in the real world.
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