Summary: Girl asks for open relationship, realizes I'm getting laid more than she is, and demands commitment. Girl gets dropped.
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This is one of those "You keep using that word; I do not think it means what you think it means" situations with regard to open relationships. The whole thing is pretty textbook, though.
I started dating girl #1 (I'll call her Abby) this spring, and established pretty early that it would be an open relationship. She actually seems to enjoy hearing about my conquests, and keeps hoping for a MFF threesome. A few months in, she's addicted to me, and I change the rules a bit - open for me, closed for her. She complies, mostly because I make it clear that if she doesn't, I'll simply drop her. During the summer, I have a couple short-term flings, which Abby seems cool with.
A month ago, I start dating girl #2 (Betty), and on our first date, she broaches the idea of an open relationship. I usually don't raise the issue until we get to the "define the relationship" phase, or any conversation about commitment comes up. I go with honesty, per my personal policy - tell her that I'm dating Abby, who knows that I'm on a date with her right now. She says she's cool with that, we break a bunch of her first date rules, and bang a couple days later. A few days after, she's gotten a taste of my dominant side, and she's asking me to tie her up, anal, etc.
Fast forward two weeks, and Betty is freaking out. Tries to drop an ultimatum - "take a break from Abby for a month, and just be with me". I tell her I'll think about it, then go radio silent for a couple days. Next thing you know, Betty apologizes, rolls back the ultimatum, and is in my bed again.
This weekend, Betty has another freak-out, and again demands commitment from me. This time, I make it clear that I'm not going to do that, and I'm more than willing to drop her if she's not cool with an open relationship. She stops by today to pick up a few things she left here, which I bag up ahead of time and leave on the porch.
Little does Betty know, but Abby is at my place sucking me off while she grabs her stuff. She texts me that she knocked, and that she just wanted to hug me one more time. Once I get off, I reply that I was home, but I just didn't hear her.
So, it must be over with Betty, right? No, she spent the evening texting how much she missed me, and sending me nudes. Plus, during the past month, Abby has stepped up her game: cleaning my place, doing my laundry, bringing me liquor, begging to be tied up and fisted, etc.
And all this is with me admitting to both girls early on that I have psychopathic tendencies. They both want to "fix" me. Good luck, ladies.
Lessons:
- A girl asking for an open relationship is actually asking for you to be a cuck. If you're getting other pussy, she'll change her mind pretty quickly.
- Fuck and dominate your girls well, and they won't want to let you go.
- Hard dread game works wonders on both existing and new relationships.
- It's possible to Alpha Widow a girl in a very short time - in a month, Betty went from "open relationship", to "you can do whatever you want to me" (one of my favorite phrases to hear), to demanding commitment, to "I had given up on finding a man like you", to "you've broken me".
- Unshakable frame is everything.
Update: Betty just texted to ask if I'm free tomorrow night. Lol again.
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