They say redpill is men comparing notes. Here are some of mine.
In Youth
-find quality male role models.
-compete in sports.
-gather a lot of ‘safe’ failures.
-just ask her, It’s a win win.
-Go for No: I will fail with 30 women this summer.
-get first time sex out of the way early and ugly if necessary.
-Main focus is: school/skills/social development/not making major mistakes.
In Adulthood
Before meeting them
-build social groups
-build respect from peers
-build close male friendships
-physical strength and health building as a lifelong habit is the easiest SMV booster.
-build financial stability, IQ, Good Habits
-long term financial success > hookups, parties.
-build skills
-study the culture of the dating scene in your area
-build good logistics
-find part time jobs with female exposure
Meeting them
-confidence/pride in anything is better than none at all.
-amused mastery
-small talk and comedy is king
-use her name.
-speak with them like you speak with models every day
-indirectly demonstrate social ability
-indirectly demonstrate strength
-be clean, smell nice, dress nice. Own your look.
-walk away and return randomly
-escalate even if they don't show interest
-Avoid online dating or use it as a supplement.
-Tempt them with fun, novelty, and emotional stimulation
-follow their actions
-It's a numbers game, however, the lower your value the more time you need to spend on approach.
Failing with them
-Your image they had of you failed, not you.
-Many, many women want what you are back on the market selling
-This too shall pass
-Don’t analyze it right away.
Plating them
-don’t lie
-beware of ‘time hoes’
-wrap it up (you’re probably a plate too!)
-Don’t get too comfortable
Dating them
-reward good behaviors
-be ready to plate them
-punish bad behavior with dread levels
-keep sex high quality and consistent
-always keep socializing, keep friendships up
-very strategically keep girls in the wings
-keep a safe pile of ‘escape’ money on hand
-No gifts or elaborate dates
-occasionally hold back on spending money on them
-Lead them very near forcefully if needed, especially if they are going to make a major mistake. She should thank you later. Plate her if she doesn’t.
-Do what you like to do. She’s along for the ride.
Working with them
-Assume women talking to you are pumping you for info; be vague.
-Tease that you have inside information.
-Use playful amused mastery but keep it light.
-You are at all times playing by fucked up female rules.
-Political correctness is the norm.
-Impressions and reputation is everything
-Avoid political discussion
-Let the boss (male or female) be the alpha.
-Create multiple broad alliances
-Bond closely with males
-Use a work wife. Choose wisely.
-Flirting should be very very light, if at all, and equally across female staff.
-DO NOT SLEEP WITH COWORKERS
Leaving them
-don't negotiate
-gather as many co-friends as possible
-control the message
-closure isn’t a thing for men.
-leave as quick as you can and go no contact.
-indirectly show success with friends, women, work right after you left them
Long Terming Them
-never for financial reasons
-Don’t use this as a chance to rest.
-Don’t fall for her making you comfortable.
-Don’t stop vetting her just do it in less noticeable ways
-trickle out beta traits.
-It’s just your turn
-Never Long Distance
Marriage
-probably don’t do this, especially not before 30.
-never for financial reasons
-it’s still just your turn
-Young, Low N count, good family, father figure, non-feminists, vetted hard
-live with her for awhile
-subtly keep her away from party girls.
-you should already live in a married state of affairs before marriage, nothing should change.
-create tight bonds with her family and be political and tactful.
-Untracebly hide money in BTC or under a rock on a mountain on a regular basis
-Use dread but much more lightly then LTR
-Do not: Defend, Explain, Excuse, Rationalize (DEER)
-lead her
-don’t always give advice when she comes with problems
-keep climbing socially and in career.
-downplay setbacks and comfort her more than usual.
-don’t stop gaming her and ‘dating’ her
-have a mission
-have social, and alone time apart.
-She doesn't love you the way you love her and that's OK.
-Even with a good lawyer it will be an ugly divorce. Keep emotion out of it till it's all over. You're on a mission to mitigate loss. Get mad after the dust is settled. Maybe now you've learned your lesson?
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