Here is the full tinder conversation
tl;dr - Guy rejects girl on tinder after a very short back and forth. Girl loses her mind and attacks him. Many people in the main thread blame the guy for "leading her on".
The guy starts out by bantering in a flirtatious way, and when asked to smash he says 'Pass. Sorry.'
The girl then lambastes him, calling him a 'Gay cunt', a 'fuck head', saying he has a small dick and that he should die. All for the crime of flirting without going all the way. OP then leaves this comment saying:
I think just for a bit of fun. I had matched with her over six weeks ago and never messaged, so I figured i'd write something completely random to engage a response. I just would have liked a bit more back and forth and then cease communicating, because that's the scope of Tinder. -130 points.
130 downvotes for doing what women do all the time? For the record, I'm 100% OK with women flirting just for the sake of flirting. But they do do that a lot, so you think they would be OK with it if a guy does it. But when this guy does it he gets lambasted by the girl he rejected and downvoted 130 times for just explaining that he wanted to engage a bit more and have a bit of a flirtatious back and forth?
Reddit responds with comments like:
Goes on app notorious for being a place to hookup. Flirts with person on app. Rejects person on app. "Just trying to enjoy some banter." 230 points.
You mean the thing that most women do all the time? Again, I couldn't care less about women doing it, but why the double standard? Apparently it isn't OK for a guy to flirt with a girl without having the full intention to bang her.
"Why would you match her and then send sexually suggestive messages though?" 930 points.
OP is in the wrong because he just wanted some flirtatious banter without going all the way, and therefore deserves this response?
"Op is texting about fucking though. Why waste the other persons time?" 30 points.
Three whole messages. Three whole messages is considered a waste of time.
"Yeah, so she wasn’t playing around, she was up front from the beginning, not sure why the guy was being a dick with leading on" 73 points.
Sending three whole messages is considered leading her on. Three messages. The guy who sent three flirtatious messages and declined sex is the bad guy, but the girl who wished death upon him for rejecting her is completely in the right?
There are many comments like this throughout the thread. Some of the thread is sane and sides with OP and calls out the double standard, but it's still pretty crazy to see how many people are trying to justify her response.
Here is the full thread
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