When you first get a puppy, It’s cute as hell, is playful, but it’s a naughty little fucker. It chews on your shoes, shits and pisses in the house, doesn’t do a damn thing it’s told. To avoid the dog owner experience being a living hell, most sane people begin to train their dog. They train their dog to listen, they train their dog to behave. They train their dog to cut out bad behaviors and enforce good behaviors. Your woman is no different.
Dog currency is treats. Your dog does something you want and you reward him with a treat. He does something you don’t like and you withhold the treat. They may get worked up and bark at you, but sooner or later even the worst behaved dogs realize that if they are to eat, they better behave the way YOU want them to.
Your currency with woman is Attention. The problem with most men is they spray that shit around like a chimpanzee with an AK-47. Use it the wrong way and you’re dealing with a misbehaved, entitled brat. Use it the right way and you’ll have her eating out of the palm of your hand.
Just like you do with your dog, you reward your lady when she exhibits positive behaviors. She gives you a surprise blow job in the car, she cooks you dinner, and she’s just behaving like a sweetheart in general. You want to reward her for this. Give her attention, she deserves it, she’s Earned it. Take her out for a dinner, buy her a little gift, and show your appreciation for her good behavior.
When she exhibits bad behavior, just like you don’t give your dog a treat, you don’t shower your woman with attention. Don’t argue with her, don’t engage with her, don’t even try and reason with her, simply withhold attention. When you argue with a woman you are giving her all the attention validation she needs. You care enough to get worked up, she means enough to you to draw a strong reaction out of you, and she will continue to behave badly as it yields emotional investment from you. Withold Attention. Withhold attention for as long as it takes for her to realize that her bad behavior was unacceptable.
Over time she will instinctively recognize this pattern. She will internalize that certain behaviors yield attention from you, and other’s yield withdrawal from you. When she’s lost your attention, she’ll start employing positive behaviors to earn it back. When she has your attention, she’ll be less inclined to misbehave as she’ll lose it. This is why certain forms of dread game are so effective.
The more attracted to you she is, the better this will work. If she can easily get attention from a higher value man, why should she sit and fight for yours. I’m not going to go into the semantics of building up value, that’s obvious, but if you wan’t your experience of being a LTR, husband, man in general to be on your terms, learn how train your woman.
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