Intro - Who is Patrice O'Neal?

Patrice O'Neal was a big fat black comedian who knew women like no one else. Before TRP even existed, Patrice was spitting hardcore RP truth. I'm writing a series on his work, and will break it down for you. Each entry will be accompanied by audio/video. Most of this is relationship focused, but plate theory will enter now and again.

This guy needs to be known by anyone who spends more than a minute on this sub. Look forward to introducing anyone and everyone, and showing fans some of his more obscure stuff over time.

Here is the audio we are breaking down today (YT Link)


As soon as she knows you will righteously leave, she will righteously stay. They can't help it.

Patrice was dealing with a caller who said "I was the biggest muthafucka" to his girl in the early days, and she "gave him the best treatment", but "the minute I decided I wanna try and settle down and 'treat her right' she started acting like the biggest bitch."

What's going on here? Simple - what we are programmed to think is correct treatment of women kills their attraction to us. 5 minutes on the sidebar can tell you listening to what women say is a death sentence for your dick. 5 weeks of accidentally doing it can fuck up a 5 year relationship.

We do this because we are subconsciously pedestalizing the pussy. Let go of "good and bad" and focus on what seems right to you. When you have frame control and she knows it, she will treat you right. If she doesn't, you leave!


I told my girl she's the 4th most important thing in my life

Patrice told his girl the following order applies:

  1. Me

  2. My Career

  3. My Mother

  4. My Girl

"It's not an attitude thing, it's a belief thing."

You have to truly believe in this order of operations. Number 3 may or may not apply to you.

After that truth bomb (surely prompted by some comfort test) Patrice's girl doubled down by explaining she put him ahead of everything - family, career, EVERYTHING. His response?

"Oh wow. Thanks."

Couple of things to take away here. Never love anyone more than yourself. In the moment aka "right now", she really thinks she loves you. It's why we tell guys to add the phrase "right now" to EVERYTHING she says to you. She really believes it....until she doesn't.

The woman must be more emotionally invested than you in the relationship. Period. Treat that as law.


If you don't talk to bitches, you lose the ability to talk to bitches.

The Commandments of Poon (which can be found via Google or sidebar) number 7 said "always keep 2 in the kitty". I'll quote a piece of it:

A woman knows once she has slept with a man she has abdicated a measure of her power; when she has fallen in love with him she has surrendered nearly all of it. But love is ephemeral and with time she may rediscover her power and threaten to leave you. It is her final trump card.

Never be a kept man. That does not mean never be in an LTR, it means never surrender your balls. To get the best from a woman, she needs to KNOW you can get more girls.

Dread is all about her understanding your value. For her to understand, it needs to be prevalent. You are gaming girls because it comes naturally to you. It's not a trick, it's not a show, and it's certainly not contrived. Start treating every attractive girl like a prospect and see where it takes you.


The power that you have is the power I let you have.

All bad behavior you experience in your relationships is your responsibility. And your fault.

Your girl acting up? You permitted her to do it. If you acted up for even a few weeks, she'd branch swing.

Understand you need to hold her to the same standards SHE WOULD FOR YOU. Women are naturally better at having standards in an LTR. Copy that behavior.


Conclusion/tl;dr

  • If your girlfriend left, you can always replace what she was giving you

  • Treating your girl like an equal who will appreciate your "niceness" is the path to losing your girl

  • Always put yourself first

  • The ideal relationship is where she is desperately in love with you, and you just like her

  • Women's power in the relationship is all about what you allow her to have. Don't give her anything she doesn't deserve.