Frustration and Impatience.

fakefalse · 2016-02-02T14:33:40+00:00

Life can be looked at as a comedy of errors. This time you supplied the punchline.

Laugh at what happened.

Next time request alternate release...or if you're up for it, just start right next to her.

I'd highly recommend mixing in some meditation to your routine if you haven't already. Or yoga for flexibility (but also helps to calm you so you're not prone to ... go off half(self)-cockkkkked).

fakefalse · 2016-02-02T14:35:02+00:00

So I double down on passive dread.

so you dressed... extra nice today right? fuck, you made me laugh this morning. That'll show her

Normally, I'd point out all the stupid shit you're hamstering, but lately, I'm trying something different.

What do you really want?

Answer this to yourself, then gauge how this whole Field report went, based on getting closer to, or further away from that. I'd suggest posting your findings here, because a lot of guys can bullshit themselves for a good year, then come here and find out they haven't really done shit. Iron sharpens iron; Or

I can just do the usual and lay into you for the obvious, you get mad and protect your ego, then delete your account.

Disclaimer: assuming your username isn't relevant, if troll, then good luck with the drama

EDIT: And I really want you to break down what you mean by doubling down on passive dread. I mean, specifically, because it sounds like you are travelling north of the north pole, insofar as it makes any sense

[deleted] · 2016-02-02T15:24:09+00:00

From a new guy, I think you're operating out of a "covert contract" (NMMNG). You're jacked and awesome, others are noticing, she does too, so the sex should come flowing your way. But it didn't, so you got pissed, wasted a bunch of time and energy on low-value activities instead of high-value activities, then found out you could have had your way. You let her frame determine your reaction.

AWALT, and watch what she does, not what she says.

SexistFlyingPig · 2016-02-02T16:35:48+00:00

You're doing the 'fake it til you make it' routine, but the only person who sees that you haven't made it is you! She's recognizing the gains. Her "I'm out of commission" was just a shit test, and you batted it down with your strong "I'm not." So she responded! She put on that sexy pink outfit.

You didn't realize it. But you won. Then, like the Cleveland Browns, you snatched defeat from the jaws of victory, rubbed one out and drank too much gin.

Don't worry about it. Let your own view of yourself catch up to what everyone else sees.

turbosympathique · 2016-02-02T19:03:28+00:00

I'm gonna give you a different perspective I have Been on this program for almost 2 years now and this is what I have learn.

MRP is all about finding an equilibrium that work for YOU! For your present situation this is my prescription.

You take yourself WAY too seriously. Relax, light one up. Go play some pool with some friend, Watch a movie with the wife, relax. for a few day. And try to have some fun.

This will do wonder for your present mindset.

[deleted] · 2016-02-02T16:40:13+00:00

so , obvious things...

Covert contracts because you lifted and she was down for it a few days ago? come on you know better.

And as for finding you wife in a pink thing at 3 am? get up, get some coffee and at least show her you appreciate her effort. Like we say on here for women... ok so you fucked your dick up... are other parts of you broke? and I bet if you started to do something Mr. Fakefalse Jr may have responded. Just sayin.

You screwed up. learn from it.

rpnow · 2016-02-02T21:21:13+00:00

Similar thing happened to me, got a cold Friday, just a head cold, no big deal, but lost my frame completely. Started eating shit, missing shit and comfort tests, one thing lead to another and I had a bluepill relapse. Funny, while feeling sorry for myself and being a bitch I watched Trainspotting. The bluepill can be like heroin, damaging yourself, your life, and people around you, and you still keep going back to it.

You can even see things get worse around you, but you blame the world becuase it couldn't be the blue pill, it's convinced you that it is providing pleasure.

Maybe you get off tbp, maybe even have a long stretch of success! And things happen, and if you aren't truly OI, and your frame isn't tip top, then you go right back to it like a junkie.

All I can do is get past it, and move on. Had to use amused mastery on myself yesterday, "oh poor guy got the sniffles and his life is over, huh?" I learned how shallow my OI is, and how ready to buckle my frame is, and now I can own it and grow.

[deleted] · 2016-02-03T08:33:18+00:00

it's always interesting reading posts like this. we have men going out of their way to make their wives gatekeepers of pussy and then get frustrated when their wives won't fuck them. i mean, helllloooooooooooo, you alone made the decision the decision she was the only pussy you have. you alone gave her all the power. you alone could take it all away, but nooooooo, you're a helpless fucking faggot assed victim.

the ironic failure of all of this is that the more power you give her pussy, the less likely she'll fuck you. you give her a reason to fuck you, and maybe she'll do so, lets say..... demonstrating you're less committed to her if she's not going to fuck you and that while she's first choice, she's definitely not last choice.

shit for all you guys with this issue, how many of you have communicated your expectations? "hey. i respect you. you have total control over the choices you make. but so do i. and here's what i know. i'm going to fuck. now, you're my first choice obviously. but that doesn't mean you're always going to be my only choice." naturally, she might get pissy - but again, at this point, not your fucking problem^{^tm} . Don't go out of your way to DEER. You could AA "YOU'RE NOT GOING TO SEX SHAME ME! I'M A STRONG POWERFUL SEX POSITIVE WOMAN!". You could focus on point "I'm going to fuck." You could deflect "If you're not satisfying my needs, why do I care about satisfying your needs again?"

edit: HAHAHAHAHAHA. I just finished reading the rest of your post after looking at some of these comments. Holy shit disregard everything I've said. You played yourself sucka. She congruence tested you and you fucking failed. You fucking failed so badly! Hahahahhaa.

I hope you're fucking pissed at yourself and your fakeness. You laid out a compliance test, didn't realize she complied, and instead jumped to the conclusion you wanted to jump to anyway, got butthurt, drank and jerked off on your own b/c of your own stupid bullshit insecurity based wrong conclusion, got back and bed and hey.. look at that. of course she's annoyed at you. you demonstrated straight up that you werne't who you said you were. you laid out a compliance test, she complied, and you did what......... jack off b/c of your lack of social prowess and self created albeit delusional inferiority complex? all you did is send the message that her complying to your wants is a waste of her time in the future. shit, in your situation, i'd go out buy some her some nice $5 flowers and put on a card that reads "Sorry I didn't fuck you."

And your solution is to join those neckbeard faggots who do MGTOW? You know the thing about those guys? Those guys couldn't attract women if their lives depended on it. It's the perfect hamsterbait for the pathetic male. I mean, your choice, but hahahaahaha. Get mad at yourself for being a stupid incongruent fuck.

I'm distant and don't want anything to do with her right now.

own your shit pussy.

MRPguy · 2016-02-02T18:09:48+00:00

You are a mess. Your frame is weak. Read some stoic works and apply some simple principles. Recognize that no matter what she (or anybody else) does, you can have a phenomenal day each and every day.

So I trip up instead. I drink too much gin. Jerk off to some porn. Hits me pretty hard to since I've been away from it for weeks now. And i finally go to bed, spent and butt hurt at about 3am.

This post is really about you screwing up and wanting to hear that it's okay. It's not okay, but you can keep moving forward.

Title	Frustration and Impatience.
Author	fakefalse
Upvotes	6
Comments	21
Date	February 2, 2016 2:25 PM UTC (8 years ago)
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