New to MRP and just started reading the sidebar material.
I have a basic question.

  1. While reading the first few pages of NMMNG, I found the following line:
    "I'm only good enough and lovable when ____."

  2. Also, in a lot of posts, the MRP theme is 'reward good behavior, and punish bad behavior'. And I get that this is psychology101.

Now, would pt. 2 above not induce nice guy behavior(pt. 1) in your wife?
For eg.:
"I feel loved only when I am not behaving badly to my husband."
"He doesn't love me if I am in shitty emotions. Does he even love me?"
Would this not lead to the wife hiding her bad side, because it may cause abandonment?

I get that NMMNG is designed for a guy. Yet I think underlying NMMNG principles might apply to both genders.
Also, I understand that this might be a BS question, because MRP is for the man's improvement(and not about the woman) and there are ample success stories in application of pt. 2 above, on this sub.

Looking for an answer.
Thank you.