A short question that I would appreciate some input on. More or less, when I get turned down often she will bring it up later. My default reaction has always been to STFU. Been trying to move forward here. This is 2 recent examples:

  • While getting ready for bed, I decided to escalate. She was kinda receptive til the eminent medium "no". I smiled and went to bed. The next day at some point she says "like last night when you tried to get some and I turned you down so you went to sleep. We could have just cuddled". I simply said "I wanted to do 2 things. One of them was sleep." Smiled and walked away.

  • While watching hockey she was beside me on the couch reading. She asked me something and we switched into conversation briefly. During this time I felt like fucking so I initiated. She basically let me kiss her with 0 effort in return. I got up, went to my beer fridge, grabbed a Pilsner Urquell and came back to the game. She finished her chapter and went to bed. The next day she says something to the effect of "then I turned you down and you went and grabbed a beer because of it". I simply said "I like beer" with a smile and carried on.

My question is are these good techniques for deflecting the shit test or am I still coming off as a butt hurt bitch?