So one item I am a little confused on is the concept of trust but verify. I understand what it means and have seen the term thrown around as something we should do and also by guys doing OPSEC on their wives they think are cheating. However, I have also seen statements where guys are stating to just use that OPSEC time to make yourself more awesome and not worry about it.

I think I understand the concept of just be wary and not be a doormat vs obsessing over what your wife is doing at all times but would like some other guys takes and maybe clarification.