[question] [anger] how to deal with BluePills?

thunderbeyond · 2017-10-13T11:59:35+00:00

Its because you were just like them in the past. You demonstrated those same characteristics. But now you look back in disgust and contempt because they are reflections of where you came from. Theirs is a place you must never go back to.

I've been there, that point when you start looking at people and interactions through a new lens. You rightly know that you can't bring them with you. Save your energy for you.

Think of them as the daily reminders of what faggotry is. The daily reminders of who not to be.

But more so, show them how a proper man should act - and demonstrate through your words and actions who a man is. You will stand tall and shade them every. fucking. single. day.

ReddJive · 2017-10-13T12:03:16+00:00

I am left wondering why I read this post and the title of another where people are amazed we were right.

Here's a hint. We already know. But fuck it. The anger phase is important to talk about.

No you never get over it. Not really. Sure there will be some here that say they turn it into something like energy or desire to work harder....whatever. There's no way you can turn a negative emotion positive. What you are really doing is using it to remind yourself where you came from and where you don't want to go back to. What you are really doing, by using anger to fuel your workout and such, is that you are running and trying to work hard enough to exhaust yourself so that the emotion has run it's course and you did not give in to it.

At worst you are just running from the anger until leaves. The best I can say is that you put it in a box and seal it up. Don't deal with it. Who can? why would you? That anger represents a side that you didn't know existed and now find abhorrent. Dealing with it means you revisit that old beta existence.

So I ask why? Why go back there? Put it away, lock it in box, and if it gets out recognize it for what it is and don't give in to it. You can feel anger just don't be angry. There's a difference. If you enter into a business contract with someone and they fail to live up to their end and the contract is terminated do you revisit why? Do you go over and over it again and again. No. You move on. You treat the next one with a little more caution and a whole lot more experience, but you still move on. What you do not do is lord over the new contractor for the failings of the other.

A sergeant I serve with told me some great advice in dealing with memories of combat. I asked how he dealt with the things he had seen and done. He asked why deal with it? Who could? Counselors have no idea what I have seen, he said, what gives them the right to talk to me about it. You lock it in a box. You never open the box.

That advice has served me well. I apply it here. Why? Why deal with it. There is no dealing with it. That emotion or any have no right to dictate me. Who I am. It's a chemical reaction to stimulus nothing more. It is not me.

The large issue with men who allow the anger to overwhelm them is that they have not yet learned how to deal with their emotions. Which is a beta trait. You are still giving in. Still wanting the world to see the injustice done to you. Fact is the world DGAF. I don't GAF. Women DGAF. Accept it. A man's lot is the hardest because there are very few if any one that will give two shits about your emotions. Some one may ask but they are asking because they just want to know that you are strong so they can come to you.

IF you emote to your woman after she asks you are just confirming her Solipsism, in that everyone feels the way she does. She would never suspect that you are in deed having a great day. .

I should be able to be at least pleasant and fun, and not ready to lash out verbally at any moment...

Ok. Then do that.

SgtSilverBack · 2017-10-13T12:39:52+00:00

I bet how you feel now is how your wife felt the whole marriage up to now.

Rian_Stone · 2017-10-13T11:24:47+00:00

You're not angry at him. You're angry at him reflecting all the things you're pissed off that you do.

hystericalbonding · 2017-10-13T10:36:18+00:00

That really grinds my gears.

It's time for stoicism.

drty_pr · 2017-10-13T22:32:32+00:00

It's ego control.

They are all variables that are beyond your control; if you're not looking to eliminate them from you life that is. Otherwise, laugh at them to yourself and keep in moving forward.

I partied with 3 couples last weekend.

1 was a guy who goes out of his way to make sure he doesn't disagree with his wife
1 was a guy who will argue incessantly with his wife to a point of total frame loss
1 was a guy who is simply defaeted

All 3 are good friends and would go out of their way to help me no questions asked. All 3 are probably betas. I don't debate gender philosophy with them. We talk music, woodworking and craft beer.

Lighten the fuck up bro.

defnow681 · 2017-10-13T10:59:17+00:00

Use it at the gym. Later, when you've worked yourself into a fine powder after heavy deads and squats, you won't give a fuck.

Chinchilla_the_Hun · 2017-10-13T14:35:44+00:00

It's part you being upset with yourself for being (having been) equally pathetic, part disappointment with them not striving for awesomeness with you. You'll get over it in time.

They are forced into my life and there are moments when I can't hide from Those moments at least, I should be able to be at least pleasant and fun...

Nope. Get this right out of your head. You are not owed pleasurable relationships with family any more than you are guaranteed love or respect from a spouse or child. Something to strive for? sure. Something to be expected? not in the least.

[deleted] · 2017-10-13T11:32:36+00:00

80/20. The vast majority of men you encounter will be weak.

RP is a solo strategy/endeavor, not a team sport. In theory, every other man you know is competition.

Look around, smile, and think "thanks for making it so easy to rise to the top boys."

BirdManBrrrr · 2017-10-13T14:43:38+00:00

I will not pretend to be a RedPill yet, and not even a PurplePill; maybe just a redder shade of Blue.

But I get so angry that they won't take responsibility for their marriage / work / employees / life. I get angry they won't stand up for themselves and by doing so, making life better for everyone around them.

How about stop worrying about other people and worry about yourself?

man_in_the_world · 2017-10-13T16:45:24+00:00

I get angry they won't stand up for themselves and by doing so, making life better for everyone around them.

You're angry because

you still hold the bluepill, beta, follower mentality that expects leadership to come from others
you have covert contracts that your various superiors and colleagues should look out for you and take care of you
you still feel the BP, beta need to placate others and worry about their feelings and opinions about you

You have some RP knowledge, but you're still BP through and through, hence these BP feelings in response to that new RP knowledge.

BluepillProfessor · 2017-10-13T17:26:04+00:00

because of that anger, I am even less fun to be around than I used to. because they grind my nerves, because I resent them for being weak, because I can't fake that nothing has changed for me.

This is a well known side effect of taking the pill.

Will I ever get over this anger-phase?

Not completely but eventually it will be like a passionate political debate. You can't understand cultural Marxists. YOu know they are wrong. You want to stand up in class and start screaming and swinging a club while you knock in some heads.

You don't freak out any more but still shake your head in frustration.

bogeyd6 · 2017-10-13T19:13:13+00:00

You are just angry because that used to be you once upon a time. The only way to deal with it is to realize you cannot change them, and conversely they cannot change you.

Sepean · 2017-10-14T07:34:07+00:00

Amused mastery, bro. Don’t expect them to understand anything, or man up, or take responsibility, that just leads to anger. Instead, you understand them. And it’s amusing. You can even have some fun with it, string them along and enjoy it.

Bitfugee · 2017-10-14T11:53:07+00:00

You sound like a fuckin psycho. Get help.

470_2_700_nm · 2017-10-13T11:23:33+00:00

You will continue to be disgusted, but after a while you won’t care anymore.

I’m still irked constantly by men’s pussified responses.

But I think the best and most rational way to overcome that is to not give a fuck, lead by example, and be stoic.

Agreed, the fem-centricity can be a little annoying. But at the end of the day if you are cursing and rolling your eyes at all these little bitches, in a way you are being a little bitch as well.

So we should stop that I guess, and give way less fucks.

[deleted] · 2017-10-13T12:07:26+00:00

You can only live your life. It's frustrating when you feel like you've figured out something or found something awesome and every one else wants to continue to wallow in suck. But it is what it is.

One day, if they reach the end of their rope they may come to you for advice IF they see your life as something they should try to strive for. Until then you may seed a comment or two...but really they wont hear it until they are willing to.

[deleted] · 2017-10-13T21:22:15+00:00

Some folks will slip away when you find the Red pill. It's inevitable.

Either you don't want to see them or they can't handle the new you because it makes them feel bad about themselves. Get used to the feeling of being alone because you were always alone anyways. You just werent so aware of it

Alphaphux · 2017-10-13T11:47:20+00:00

Don't forget the STFU bit

bala-key · 2017-10-13T12:19:06+00:00

Are you really angry at them or angry at yourself?

You have to process this somehow, because you'll be spending the rest of your life among people who see the world differently from you. You're going to have learn to nod and smile and keep your mouth shut.

Focus on yourself. Read '48 Laws of Power'. Read 'How to win friends and influence people'. Learn to not be an unpleasant ball of anger around people because you can easily sabotage your life (private AND professional) that way.

Use your anger in the gym.

zayelion · 2017-10-13T18:10:17+00:00

Use them as frame target practice.

Anger phase will pass, just need to process it.

Mazcok · 2017-10-13T19:39:35+00:00

Bluepills?? AWALT

BobbyPeru · 2017-10-13T22:32:26+00:00

Your anger phase is over the top. You do you - let them live comfortably in the dark if that's how they want to live their life.

SteelSharpensSteel · 2017-10-15T22:54:57+00:00

How do you deal with Blue Pill'ers? You don't, they have their own sub. Occasionally I go over and laugh at them.

[deleted] · 2017-10-16T16:24:26+00:00

Why do you give a fuck about how other dudes run their lives?

weakandsensitive · 2017-10-15T14:53:11+00:00

Hi there, you'd call me a Blue Pill. The anger you're feeling is manufactured outrage. It's one of the tools TRP is using to brainwash you. Anger at those outside of the cult mindset is a classic tool of control. Feeling angry all the time is not healthy for various psychological and physiological reasons. If you're feeling angry, it's your mind telling you something isn't right.

The people surrounding you definitely need to learn to stand up for themselves. However, since TRP is draining your ability to empathize with others, your only remaining script is to be angry with them. There is another way, friend. You clearly have some empathy left. You want to help them. And you can! You could have a firm, honest conversation with these folks about how their passivity is affecting their lives, and provide them with an alternative script - assertiveness - to get what they want out of life. All without all of this internal stress. If they refuse to listen to you, you can safely write them off, distance yourself as best you can, and move on with the positive feeling that you tried to help, and there are just some negative people who have to learn to help themselves.

And the rewards are massive. You can all walk away from this feeling light and free, without the harm that bottling up your emotions causes. It's certainly the harder path - TRP is a shortcut. It is in every aspect the Easy Way. You must first understand this. It is anathema to itself, which claims to be a way to work hard and get what you want. But TRP simply ignores the parts that require real effort and gives you a fast way to get a wet dick.

RPJMRP · 2017-10-13T13:35:41+00:00

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