Any appropriate time for mate guarding? Dread game in reverse?

BobbyPeru · 2017-11-30T05:28:18+00:00

The potential for them to get up to shit behind my back has never bothered me

You wouldn’t be posting about it if it didn’t bother you.

You didn’t give us much to go on, so all I can advise is trust but verify.

DeplorableRay · 2017-11-30T15:03:59+00:00

I get a massage every week as part of my fitness goals. My masseuse is a thot and a hot mess. The wife always playfully asks me if shes getting my groin good enough (I have and old injury that flares up.) Its almost a form of dread because these two see each other around the gym and my wife always asks if she getting my groin well enough. At one of these encounters between the two, the masseuse responded "not as well as I'd like to," in a joking kind of way. That led to a pretty good time that night.

What I'm trying to say here, is that you can make this part of your sexual strategy. Be playful and confident about it. Maybe ask her after her appointment if he missed anything, or if she needs extra work on something. Tell her you'll pick up his slack, tell her her body isn't completely finished until she has her happy ending. Parlay the massage into something that he starts and you'll finish. She'll be thinking about you finishing the job whiles she's actually there.

Be her prize, be her captain, and spin spin spin those opportunities to your advantage.

Just like men get can get an appetite elsewhere and bring it home, so can your wife, as long as she knows where to eat and can anticipate that meal.

UEMcGill · 2017-11-30T15:02:21+00:00

There's a saying and its used for good reason. She's not yours, it's only your turn.

There's always a better man than you.

There's always a stronger man than you.

There's always a more powerful man than you.

So why be Dante, always tilting at windmills?

If and when the day comes that she says, "I'm out." You say "thanks!" and go upgrade. If you don't think you can't upgrade from your wife, you have work to do.

[deleted] · 2017-11-30T06:32:29+00:00

Women don't dread : they branch swing. Your woman can't use dread, because you won't feel dread if you have an abundance mentality and are ready to leave (the stay plan is the go plan, remember that). Dread works on people who are afraid to lose something.

What can you do to prevent it besides becoming the best version of yourself ? If she wants to cheat, she will, whatever you do.

[deleted] · 2017-11-30T11:19:15+00:00

NO woman should be able to dread you.

That misconception is where your insecurity nests.

ReddJive · 2017-11-30T13:11:45+00:00

it brings to mind a potential scenario

All I needed to read. Your hamster is churning hardcore.

Alphas can't be dreaded. They know their worth and that they can replace someone quickly. They may prefer one person over the other but will have no issue with punishing disloyalty in any form.

I have a naturally skinny build, much easier to cut than bulk, so getting much bigger than 200 probably isn't gonna happen. I generally aim for "big enough" and "ripped"

Bullshit. In fact skinny guys have an easier time building muscle and filling out. You just need to eat properly for the workout program you are doing. You may not be like Hercules there in a year...that kind of build takes years of dedication and proper eating.

Taipanshimshon · 2017-11-30T13:36:36+00:00

how do you deal with dread coming in YOUR direction?

by being the better option whether she strays or not.

regarding other dudes :

Women have a tendency to like what they like - which is, which ever dude gives them tingles. Presence, etc etc.

There are plenty of stories of wives fucking a beta because he is just a different flavor or offered her what ever she thought she was missing.

Basically - there is no "girl dread". You laugh at that shit. If she comes out and says something like "I'm gonna fuck therapy dude"

laugh, shake your head, "Yeah, ok. Your call"

because at the end of the day, she knows better. Or you are not better.

Downhere_Seeds · 2017-12-01T15:49:56+00:00

Hmm, would this guy who looks like Arnold in his prime, want to mess up his career, lose his license and his job, just to hook up with your sloppy old wife (no offense) when he could be hooking up with younger, firmer breasted hot girls? Probably not.

If you think your wife is attracted to him, tease her about it but maintain the confidence of amused mastery, because you know she doesn't have a chance, but you can enjoy watching her squirm or get defensive

albus_scirocco · 2017-11-30T15:55:13+00:00

She's not yours, it's just your turn. AWALT.

If she does, next her and fuck 20-year-olds two-at-a-time.

red-sfpplus · 2017-11-30T12:44:17+00:00

It never stops amazing me how insecure guys are when they are around, or their women are around physically superior men.

If your wife has IT band issues then you need to take her and Deadlift. That will fix it.

No amount of massaging will fix a muscle imbalance issue, which if you knew anything about human anatomy would know that a tight lower back and gluteals will cause IT band issues.

Edit: You outed yourself as a beta cuck with the use of “old lady” BTW.

JDRoedell · 2017-11-30T14:13:11+00:00

Either you believe you’re the prize or you don’t.

If she gets hit on, that’s outside your control and GAF zone. If SHE is hitting on or pursuing other men or indulging advances with more than friendly conversations, then you set a boundary or show her the door if it’s repeated.

Senor_Martillo · 2017-12-01T13:47:36+00:00

Your wife is almost certainly a whore with Lou Ferrignos alpha sperm in her throat, rectum and vagina. I recommend divorce, your marriage is fucked

SteelSharpensSteel · 2017-11-30T08:36:10+00:00

There is a difference between setting boundaries and mate guarding. Would you say she has violated any boundaries in this situation?

Senor_Martillo · 2017-11-30T15:09:45+00:00

Excellent observations all around. Thanks gentlemen. Back to lifting and S'ingTFU.

captainVSI · 2017-11-30T18:02:01+00:00

Why be bothered with the thought “she’ll want me”?

dandar4600 · 2017-12-01T19:46:02+00:00

If he makes you uncomfortable then tell her to get a female massage therapist. I could buy if he was doing it in a business or at your house with you there, but alone in his place one on one? Every other week?

My wife had a guy coming into our house usually with me there. Not threatening, professional no bullshit. I was ok with it until I came down to bring her something. He was very professional but just seeing another guy's hands on my wife was enough. I told her to get a woman. She still didn't but neither did she call him again. No fighting, no hamster running around. I told her once that I didn't like seeing that and she complied.

screechhater · 2017-12-01T02:01:37+00:00

So my wife calls me. “Hey, there’s this get together tonight with this group ... do you mind if I go ? “. I say have fun.

She then decides to momma me with a list of too much. I say just go, have a good time She then start s in again. I go silent. Then she decides to tell me so and so will be there. She mentions a newly divorced stud. I yawn, hang up.

She gets home and much to my chagrins she has her stockings in her hand. I just fucking laugh. She starts crying, she says she was hot so took them off in the car. She starts on the defensive about hanging out with all the gay guys.

See, I don’t give ten fucks. She knows this. But she also knows I will given the opportunity, fuck all of her single friends, married ones, acquaintances and every one else in her circle. It’s an unwritten rule. My past is so heavily checkered, she doesn’t wanted me out of the stable

I’m pretty well laid back, and when I speak, it’s solid. When my opinion is given it’s thoughtful So when she says she is traveling, and if I need some action, I might want to hook up with someone, I name a friend of hers and ask her how many buckets she might be able to fill, considering the friend is married to s POS Or, when she tells me in Vegas, she would be willing to pay for a hooker, to get the good boys don’t , I say let’s go, “but be warned, they might charge an overused fee” I truly have no reason or use to operate in her frame, or take her bait

My wife was in a meeting with a single dude, signed a loan doc for me. and then motioned for me to leave like a servant. Waving me off. I shake the guys hand and tell him nice to meet him. I leave her standing there without saying goodbye. Making the point, I serve no one, including her. I do not fear her actions or inactions. The do not operative in her frame

Mateguarding is the lowest form of scratching the existence of living in your frame, but honestly it’s not. It’s hers

Lower than that, is reacting to female compulsion to manipulate a reaction for you to come out of frame, mateguard, and then beat you over the head with it. A real sense of hate laden pride overwhelming her feelz

Title	Any appropriate time for mate guarding? Dread game in reverse?
Author	Senor_Martillo
Upvotes	6
Comments	42
Date	November 30, 2017 5:20 AM UTC (6 years ago)
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