Your best Agree & Amplify...

Fritz_Frauenraub · 2018-02-04T05:05:53+00:00

You say that you are not good with humour or sarcasm, that is very self aware of you and it is a powerful thing to know one’s weaknesses. So for you the answer is pretty simple, you avoid A&A all together. There are many ways to respond to a shit test, so for you introverts ignore is the best one. Just ignore her shit test altogether. Pretend you did not hear what she said and get on with steering the conversation in a direction you prefer. If you try A&A it will just sound autistic unless you have frame and good comedic timing. So no point putting together a script or playbook of A&A techniques, just ignore her shit tests. Another great way to deal with shit tests is the pressure flip. This does not require good timing or a great sense of humour. Read up on the TRP sidebar and top posts about shit tests and work in the pressure flip.

CasperTFG_808 · 2018-02-03T16:37:06+00:00

AA typically works best when she's shit testing you about something absolutely ridiculous.

Many wives will start feeling fat and ugly as you continue going to the gym. They'll start throwing out accusations of cheating. These are great AA moments.

you: "Heading to the bar to meet up with some of my friends. See you in a couple of hours."

her: "You're meeting up with a woman, aren't you???"

Blue Pill You: "No, sweetie! I don't have eyes for anyone but you! I'm sorry that I was so thoughtless, but it really is just drinks with the guys. I mean, if it's making you worried, I'll call them and cancel and we can go out, k?"

AA you: "A woman? Babe, I have at least 20 women meeting me at the bar right now! And they'll be PISSED if I'm late. See ya!"

Recently my wife was questioning the finances. She said something like, "I have no idea where all the money is spent!" I said, "Well, at least half of it goes to hookers and blow." She laughed and nothing came of it. Had I gone BP and tried to defend where the money goes, it would have been a fight and I'd have been squarely in her frame.

The_Litz · 2018-02-03T16:58:05+00:00

Online catalog? Nope, it will be forced and unnatural. You have to develop it yourself.

AA is just a technique you use. It has to fit in with you and your lifestyle. It is not a magical sentence that will subdue a woman and turn her into putty in your hands, it is just one tool of many.

Being a man of high value is what makes that tool work. Being high value will make anything that comes from your mouth sound like an excellent AA line.

For example. If you are high value you can use bad language and she won't flinch. If you are a suplicating beta bitch any foul language will be met with frowns or repremands.

It is all how and from whom AA is delivered, not the actual words themselves.

SiegreicherMarsch · 2018-02-04T02:04:55+00:00

The best way is to literally store your canned responses inside a can. I put them on the inside bottom of a soda can and then when my wife deploys a shit test, I "take a drink" from the can to read the line. Works great.

JudgeDoom69 · 2018-02-04T18:08:43+00:00

The idea behind a proper shit test response is that you don't let her words affect you. You remain in-frame and in control of your shit.

If you don't have a quick wit, Agree and Amplify is not for you. You can't use pre-rehearsed phrases, that will come across as phony.

Have you read "When I Say No , I Feel Guilty" by Manuel J. Smith? Fogging would be a better technique for you to deflect a shit test.

You just glibly accept the shit, or a part of the shit, even if it's bullshit, and you repeat it back to your wife. "Yes, I screwed up". "You're right, that was pretty dumb." Eventually she'll get exhausted throwing stones at the fog.

Westernhagen · 2018-02-03T18:44:23+00:00

What would you say to your pesky kid sister? That's your AA response.

wadearave · 2018-02-03T23:23:57+00:00

Take an improv class. If you’re in any decent sized city you’ll be able to find one. Improv is built on the concept of “Yes, and...” its the same idea as AA. Improv will provide a structured way to recognize what it looks like and the opportunity to practice it.

Classes might also be offered at a community college as well.

At the very least google “Yes, and...” a different approach might help you understand it.

ReddJive · 2018-02-05T12:02:19+00:00

/u/88Will88 is absolutely right.

Frame is far more important. If you lack frame AA and AM can come as combative, it can hurt your interactions more than helping them.

This is a common mistake. Guys make it because they don't understand the subtleties. With no frame AA and AM come off as being a sarcastic asshole. You're not being cocky to show off how cool you are, you're being cocky to show that you don't take things too seriously.

Cocky funny isn't about being cool and aloof, it's the opposite. When you say something that makes fun of the girl you're talking about, it's not supposed to seem like a true statement, it should be tongue-in-cheek, slightly ironic, even mischievous. In other words Frame.

Women can sense when a guy is trying to get something from them, they can smell an agenda like a shark can smell blood. So, when you try to fake your way as a method of impressing a girl, it doesn't work.

DanceMonkeeDance · 2018-02-03T16:23:03+00:00

Yes, the best way for autistic fucks to learn agree and amplify is to build an online catalog of canned responses. How's that?

markpf73 · 2018-02-03T17:37:43+00:00

Your goal with the whole AA, AM skill set ultimately should be that it is natural and reflexive. It is a learned behavior/skil/personality.

Immerse yourself in ball busting podcasts while you drive. You'll start to absorb some of it that way too.

Title	Your best Agree & Amplify...
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