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88Will88 · 2018-06-18T05:41:44+00:00

You have been together for 10 years but no kids. Trust me, this story only gets worse. Here is how your story reads IF you succeed 100% at MRP:

1 year from now sex is 2-3 times a week
you and wife decide things are improving so it’s time to have a kid
kid comes along, wife shifts 100% of affection from you onto the kid
she starts using the pregnancy and the kid as a reason to stop having sex
you revert to full beta, you start whingeing about the lack of sex
you stay together for a few years with duty sex becoming the norm
you fall into a holding pattern and maybe even push out another kid in a misguided attempt to save your fucked up marriage
divorce rape within the next 1-2 years

Now that is what happens if you succeed, the above is best case scenario for you. Just kill the fucking puppy and move on with your life. You have fucked this relationship up, start again in a few years once you have fixed yourself up and spun plates for at least a year or two. No kids plus miserable marriage is a no brainer, divorce.

justpickanyusername · 2018-06-18T01:29:48+00:00

Dear online diary,

I have done some stuff. Things got bad and then I did some more stuff. My wife is now is on another floor of the house. I sometimes get emotional about shit. Also, I tend to write vague thoughts about some things and some stuff.

WTF are you asking OP? Be more specific.

matrixtospartanatLV · 2018-06-18T03:21:17+00:00

Thank you for the edit.

Here’s what I think. Let me know how close I am.

Because you look okay, because you bank pretty well, because you have viewed porn as instructional videos, and because you have not internalized the sidebar...

You are an entitled little fuck that thinks your wife will lick whip cream off your cock because you tell her to.

Well, no she won’t. And the chicks you’ve seen do it in the “movies” are being paid a helluva lot more than your wife and they don’t have to put up with your bullshit between takes.

I’m borrowing a phrase here, but you are a fucking little child with a box of dynamite. Just because you read the caution on the side of the box, you think you’re qualified to light and throw sticks.

Well, you fucking retard, you are about to blow off your own dick.

How’m I doin’ so far?

So, you’re done.

As in, you are a fucking noob and today is day one.

You’re starting from a place where you are fucked up, your marriage is fucked up, and I don’t know how fucked up your wife is, but she may be simply fucking done with you.

That’s your starting point. You don’t get to rush it.

THERE ARE NO FUCKING SHORTCUTS! you dumbass.

So now the stay plan and the go plan, or dealing with her leaving, really is the same fucking plan.

Once again, for drill, YOU HAVE NO CONTROL OVER HER. SHE IS GOING TO DO WHAT SHE WANTS/HAS TO DO AND YOU HAVE TO OWN IT.

Your fucking entitled little ego is writing checks with your mouth that your body literally can’t cash.

Kill your fucking ego, you weak little cunt. Search it on this sub, another sub, google it, youtube it, buy a fucking book about it, I don’t care. Just fucking fix it.

Next, read this.

https://illimitablemen.com/understanding-the-red-pill/red-pill-constitution/

Now, go BACK to the sidebar and start the fuck over. From the beginning. Don’t skip anything, because the shit you skip will be where you FAIL! You know, like you just did, again. How’s that working out for you, now?

Buy 3, 5-subject spiral bound notebooks. TAKE NOTES AS YOU READ! I’m serious. If all you’re going to do is skim this shit so you can check off the boxes when you start whining in your posts, then save us and yourself a lot of time and effort and just get the fuck out now.

Start over at dread level one. You may go through the first 2-3 levels in a week, but READ ALL OF THE ASSOCIATED MATERIAL as outlined because you failed the first time.

DO NOT LOSE FRAME OR PERSPECTIVE on the real situation. Your marriage may already be over. Your wife may serve you divorce papers in 96 hours, you autistic fuck. And you will continue to fail until you realize that YOU ARE 100% RESPONSIBLE FOR THIS MESS AND YOU ARE 100% RESPONSIBLE FOR FIXING YOUR OWN SHIT.

The following should sound familiar..

You can ONLY FIX YOU.

You cannot fix your marriage.

You cannot fix your wife.

All you can do is fix you.

The wife may respond, or not, and the marriage may fail, or not.

BUT IT DOESN’T FUCKING MATTER BECAUSE THE SHIT YOU NEED TO DO TO FIX YOU REMAINS THE SAME WHETHER SHE LEAVES OR NOT.

So you’ve done your version of MRP and failed, quite miserably, I might add. Now it’s time to commit to the program, pull your entitled head out of your own cunt, grow a pair with hair, and become a man other men want to be, and other women want to fuck. Recognize THAT?

Start over. Take this shit seriously. It’s only your own fucking life you’re throwing sticks of dynamite at.

Tomorrow is a new day.

Reset.

Draw your map, grow the fuck up, and start acting like a man instead of a drunken 11 year old playing with a loaded gun.

Now stop fucking around and..

GET TO FUCKING WORK.

BobbyPeru · 2018-06-18T05:48:56+00:00

You read , but you failed to practice.

Reading without practice is dead

Faith without works is dead

Quit backing yourself in the corner is my final answer

matrixtospartanatLV · 2018-06-18T02:05:32+00:00

I’m not going to lie, this is one of the weakest and poorest cries for help I’ve read here.

You: “Hey doc, it hurts when I do something.”

Doc: “What are you doing?”

You: “I’m not really going to tell you.”

Doc: “Ok. Stop doing it.”

You: “Thanks doc!!”

Look, if you want good information, you have to give good information.

You’ve been here over a year? Read the entire sidebar? Still being an autistic Rambo asshole (pussy full of shit)?

I call bullshit on one of those. Care to guess which one?

What level of dread are you SOLIDLY on?

What books have you ACTUALLY read? More importantly, which have you read more than once? Because unless you are an idiot savant, you got less than 15% of it the first time through. Are you actually autistic? Asspie? What?...

Your reported stats are okay, so most of your problem is in your headspace. You should be on your 3rd pass through the sidebar by now. Some books will mean more and be more specific to you than others. For instance, I’ve been through The Rational Male 4x now, The Way of the Superior Man 3x now.

You see, after a full year of MRP sidebar you are still performing at the 2-3 month level, so yeah, your year ain’t shit, as you suggested, and your sidebar reading is very weak, at best.

So let’s start over.

Go back and edit your post.

Tell us what you’ve read, what dread level you are on, and describe this situation that led her to seek refuge in a different part of the house.

And for the record, if she has to leave the house to get her space, she’s going to bed a beta that understands her and gives her the relationship feels your internal boilermaker don’t generate for her.

And it will be some orbiter that makes 10% of what you do, because if you haven’t figured it out yet, you’re bank don’t mean shit for relational equity. Eventually, she WILL get what she wants, take a sizable chunk of your shit on the way out the door, and use it to feather her nest with her new branch.

If you don’t recognize some of what I just wrote, you need to read The Rational Male, at least two more times.

Your edit should be all about YOU, and her response. What you think and what you feel are meaningless, as you already know.

WHAT THE FUCK HAPPENED?

So get specific, or get the fuck out.

[deleted] · 2018-06-18T14:36:54+00:00

A year into this shit and you're still trying to negotiate desire? Let's say your wife did agree to fuck you more because she doesn't want a divorce. Then what? You have a wife who starfish duty fucks you more frequently just to shut you up. Is that what you want? A wife who regretfully fucks you out of compliance? Negotiating desire (or crying like a baby because your wife won't fuck you) is probably THE worst thing one can do for their sexual relationship. Smack yourself hard in the face and promise you will never, ever do that again.

oneredguy · 2018-06-18T07:26:59+00:00

Oh man your wife left to another floor? So now you have a hall pass? You can finally bring those other girls home?

You know what teh girliez actually respect? When you're bringing home a girl ten years younger, thirty pounds thinner, and she got her arms around you, looking up.

Yeah blah blah blah divorce. Go give away more money do you not even realize how much money you give away now. Nothing there will change.

Rian_Stone · 2018-06-18T13:50:57+00:00

Lol, did you pee on the wall to assert dominance?

You give way too Many fucks. In fellow DILDO terms:

My dog got out of his leash once. I yelled At him To Come.

He didnt

I came over to him to grab him

He ran home, just out of my reach

I was defeated, he's waiting at the door for me to let him In. Next time it happened?

I ran full bore towards the park with the other dog, ready to have fun chasing the pit bulls.

He ran up and came with me into the park.

you don't assert fuck all

RedPillCoach · 2018-06-18T17:43:11+00:00

STFU doesn’t mean withdraw and be a faggot.

Another man sees the light! We are going to get all of them sooner or later.

I fucked up bad with the Rambo and now I don’t know what to do.

Yes you do. Back off the Rambo and start identifying those Comfort Tests from the Shit Tests. Then react appropriately.

I think this might be my main area of work in my Relationship coaching practice. Start by reading my posts on The 4 horsemen and Building an Emotional Connection with your wife.

Then start offering an olive branch every day. Assume good intentions and assume that it is a comfort test and behave appropriately. What would you do if your 9 y/o daughter was whining and crying about something? You would take her in your arms and reassure her. Now if she responds by throwing herself on the ground and pitching a temper tantrum THEN it may be wise to STFU and remove your reinforcement of this behavior.

When a Beta Bob goes Rambo on a wife who married him because she wanted a Beta to push around and control (and who is not likely to cheat on her) bad things always happen.

simbarlion · 2018-06-18T01:36:35+00:00

there are three scenarios moving forward.

Number 1) is you as beta, 2) is you as alpha, 3) is you continuing on in limbo (current state)

Beta is easy, you go back to being a good boy, and get what you are given. The easy path
Alpha, is possible, but harder. You have to stick to the plan, and above all else, pursue rule zero to the end. Stay plan is the go plan. Be willing to burn it down. Who cares the least wins. etc etc
Limbo, is the rambo / beta cycle, or the half assed alpha. Its a prescription for pain all around, indefinitely.

You don't mention sex so I am going to assume its a relationship dynamics kind of problem. Based on the info you provide, 1 year of MRP has you right in the limbo zone. Your text tends heavily towards you doing rambo/ beta cycling as you "pressure cook explode", then worry about what you have done. You're in a full tilt battle of the wits.

Prescription from me?

Slow your roll. Up your SMV.

SMV is the trump card in this game.

ReddJive · 2018-06-18T11:11:07+00:00

She is “taking space” and thankfully our home is large enough to accommodate her having refuge on another floor.

This is not the action of a woman who is interested in you nor a relationship with you.

Medium is the message

CaliEd256 · 2018-06-18T03:19:22+00:00

You asked her to lick whip cream off your cock and she replied “I’m going to divorce your ass.”

But you say she’s a high quality woman???

She’s not bro. A high quality woman would have done it for you OR rolled her eyes at you, laughed, and then done it later that night anyway.

You’ve got terminal oneitis, and if you’ve already been RP for a year, then there’s no cure.

Big_Daddy_PDX · 2018-06-18T03:15:51+00:00

You are a mess. However, you calling her bluff on divorce and her leaving and then coming home was her coming into your frame.
After years of sailing the Blue Boat, the first few times you try to change course will be Rambo moments - or they’ll feel like a Rambo moment. Hold your course.

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