I just came to redpill just a couple weeks ago, so all this is pretty new to me. I'm 52 years old and have been married for 7 years to my wife who is 35. Due to our ages and my wife's cultural background she's pretty accepting of me being dominant in the relationship. However, over the last couple years I've noticed some change in how she treats me, and now realize that I seriously need to redpill, increase my SMV/dread and change our relationship.

My wife doesn't turn me down for sex, but I'd like to see her more into it. In the beginning of our relationship she would also give me oral and let me CIM. However, about a year ago she said she didn't want the CIM part. Also, when I asked for anal she was a hard 'no' on that. I'd definitely like to have these be part of our sex life, but am wondering the best way to go about it. I have started working out, setting some boundaries as to her behavior, etc. and have gotten the comment from her that "You are changing". Regarding the oral and anal, is this something I should drop for the time being while I follow my MAP, or should I continue going for the CIM/anal every so often?