Hey guys. I'm in an LTR right now. And I have a question and need opinions. My LTR and I have been together for 2 years.

The last few months the sex has dried up. sj It's maybe twice a month. She's miserable because of her hands (carpal tunnel). I've had surgery and I know how much the pain can cause distress.

I've upped my dread. I significantly packed on muscle. I'm always getting hit on by other girls. I've left when I don't get Sex to go to the gym or hang out with buddies. I spend a night somewhere else and she fucks with enthusiasm then I'm back to the same shit.

Today is her surgery. So she can't really use that anymore. Do you think hand pain is a valid reason to not have sex?

Should i wait this out to see how she acts post surgery, overtly give her options, or just next?