I'm 35, wife also 35, married for 2 years, together for 2.5 years. 1 child (1.5 year old son).
Discovered red pill around 6 months ago and mrp reddit 4 months ago.
Going to the gym for almost 3 years, but was doing mostly fuckarounditis and going only twice or even once a week.
Exactly 2 months ago I started with serious Stronglifts 5x5, 3 times a week.
Height 192cm (6 feet 3.6 inch), Weight 100kg (220.46 lbs), bf estimation between 13-17%.
Squat 5x5: 97.5kg (214.9 lbs)
DL 3x5: 112.5kg (248 lbs)
BP 5x5: 97.5kg (214.9 lbs)
OHP: 52,5kg (115.7 lbs)
BR: 70kg (154.3 lbs)
Finished MMLSLP, Rational male, NMMNG 2x, reading WISNIFG at the moment. Read about 15% of the sidebar.
Posted my first OYS.
Soon after we married, she became extremely controlling, and started having regular anger outbursts. Some of the worst shit (breaking a lot of stuff in the house and slapping me and hitting me with objects) happened when she was pregnant and my gut was telling me I should just endure and tolerate it until pregnancy is over. I felt like a weak faggot and grew a lot of resentments towards her and myself.
After our son was born, breaking of stuff stopped but the physical attacks continued.
The shit culminated one day with us physically fighting while the newborn was in the same room. I started hitting her back when she wouldn't stop hitting me. A total fucking shit show.
I finally discovered redpill and mrp.
After discovering /mrp started STFU-ing worked like a charm towards goal of creating my frame and maintaining it. Failing less shit tests than before. After failed shit test, I make a mental note and prepare for another. Working on not being butthurt, reseting every day. We don't argue as much ,and the arguments last a lot shorter thanks to STFU, AA, AM and a lot of less DEER-ing.
Sex was never the problem, her lack of respect towards me was (I am aware that's my fault) and inability to have a civil discussion or argument without raging.
She became less and less aggressive and I found the ways to defuse the behavior before it escalates to the point of no return.
I don't manage to do it all the time though. So about month ago was the last time she wanted to hit me, I looked her in the eyes and told her : "If you hit me, be prepared to be hit back, I am a lot stronger than you, I will not put up with being hit by you." She stopped for a second hesitating, but still hit me in my face.
To be perfectly honest, In that moment, I wanted to ram her fucking head in the wall until it pops. I looked her in her eyes with anger but did nothing, I stayed still. I just kept looking at her, made a "I'm very disappointed" head gesture and walked away.
Later she apologized, cried and told me she will go to therapy. She kept her word and told me she is very aware of her problem, but also told me I'm the part of the problem (I'ts my fault that I constantly "deliberately push her buttons").
She told me she did that shit in relationships before me and told me that her dad often physically disciplined her.
I'm not sure if I acted good in this situation, so I would appreciate any advice on how to deal with wife physically assaulting you? I tried 2 approaches - being a pussy bitch and even begging her on my knees to stop (makes me wanna puke when I remember how low I felt), that didn't work, I tried hitting her back after she wouldn't stop (she seemed to respond best to this, she would cry, calm down and apologized and but I know this is not healthy, and not normal and I don't wanna do that shit).
The "not acting out on my rage and making a disappointed face" is the last thing I did.
This time I wanted to show her that even though I wanted to fucking kill her, I endured and kept my cool.
I am yet to see if this reaction worked on her or not.
When this shit starts again, I must be prepared. I would appreciate any feedback. How to address when she wants to break your STFU by physically attacking you?
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