My wife is a stunning and beautiful woman with very low self esteem.

As a child she grew up fat and was severely teased and bullied. As a result, she never felt beautiful and put herself down a lot. Originally I took this as a comfort test, so whenever she said bad things about herself I’d give her positive feedback. However after years of the same shit I finally told her that I find it unattractive when she constantly puts herself down. The last thing any guy wants to hear while he’s fucking his wife is listening to her point out her physical flaws over and over when he’s trying to climax. She pretty much stopped after I said this.

As a captain and leader I want to help her and encourage her to become more confident in herself. This way she has something that excites her and keeps her mind occupied on a healthy goal. This also gives me time to focus on my mission without having to deal with shit or comfort tests. When she has too much time on her hands she sometimes becomes a pain in the ass.

So luckily my wife is also into working out and strength training. She teaches spin class and kick boxing at the local gym. It’s always been her dream to compete in a fitness contest, so last month I pushed her into doing it despite the cost and commitment.

She has 9 months to train for the show. 5 months of bulking and gaining muscle, and 4 months of cutting down to her bikini competition weight. I think this will be very good for her because if she’s competing in the best shape of her life, I’m hoping her confidence level will go up.

So 2 weeks ago she started training and diet and she’s kicking ass. I told her I’m proud of her because for the first time in her life she has her own goals that she is striving for that’s giving her adrenaline. Her mood has been very positive and the shit and comfort tests have been reduced. She still has a problem with jealousy of other women I work with or see at the gym, however I’m able to handle it with A&A and fogging.

If she succeeds, I’m seriously going to have a 9+ in the bedroom. Her face has always been stunning, however if she’s competition ready she’ll have a body to match.

Currently I’m an above average looking guy who is fit and very successful in my career and mission. Ever since I’ve been lurking on RP forums, working the side bar and soaking it all in our sex life has been great. She’s very submissive and she seems to get off just pleasing me. As I said before she also gets very jealous.

I realize this competition could be both a blessing and a curse. So I’m finding myself very motivated and driven to up my physical game as well.

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46 years old. 5’11 height. 193 weight. BF: 14% using Navy Method. Mesomorph.

Married 20 years. Together 26 years.

Sidebar: Read NMMNG, MMSLP, The Rational Male (vol 1-3), Practical Female Phycology.

Going to start participating in OYS soon.

Lifting Progress

Deadlift: 305 lbs x 8

Bench Press: 205 lbs x 10

Squat: Was 265 x 8. Resetting to correct form (ass to grass)

Overhead Press: 130 x 8

Bent-Over Row: 165 x 8

Started lifting 6 months ago. Overall made great progress. Doubled strength in my lifts and lost 30 lbs of fat. Achieved minimal weight to achieve Proficiency Level in strength.

At this point I’ve had 2 significant injuries that I’m currently overcoming.

Injury 1 happened 6 weeks ago and was caused by me being a dumbass and trying to curl too much weight. I now have bicep tendonitis that seems to be going away after I stopped performing exercises that triggered pain (pull ups and curling). This week I will try to start off with light weight and high reps and work myself back up. I will continue as normal only incrementing weight by 5 lbs once I can do 15-20 reps.

Injury 2 happened yesterday because I was a dumbass again trying to deadlift in the 4-8 rep range. I don’t think this injury is as serious as the first. The pain seems to be in my upper rear-side calve just below the knee. Well see…

My goal is to build muscle size.

Starting today I’m going to go into high rep range with lower weight. Each exercise I’ll try to perform 10-15 reps before I progressively add weight.

I think this approach will also help me achieve my goal of gaining muscle size verses just focusing on strength. I want to look more like a body builder, not a power lifter.

While my injuries finish healing, I’m going to focus on reducing my body fat from 14% down to 10%. Right now my waist measured at naval is 34 inches, so I’m targeting a 32 inch waist in order to achieve 10%. Once I’m at 10% I’ll start light clean bulking at 300 calorie surplus.

I don’t want to bulk while I’m at 14% bf because I did this many years ago and I just looked bulky and fat. My goal is to gain as much muscle possible while maintaining a low BF.

I’m going to stop taking Creatine HCL to eliminate the water retention so I can get a clear idea of my current BF. I also began taking L-Dopa in order to increase my HGH levels.

Can anyone offer me any advice on whether or not my approach is wrong? Specifically, reducing BF at the beginning and focusing more on high rep sets vs low rep.

I already know I’m still a faggot in some ways so that goes without saying…

Edit: When I say 9+, I'm saying relative to being a 46 year old women. Not across women of all ages.

Edit #2:

Interesting feedback from everyone. ohneyapocalypse is most useful. Everyone hit the mark when they say I need to improve my lifting. I shouldn’t be getting injured like this. When I try to lift too heavy my form goes to shit and I need to work on this. However that's about it.

In a short time I compiled what I needed to learn from MRP and I’m in a place where I I am the prize. My mission is going great, I thought my lifting was going great however I’ve been corrected on that and I thank you all for this. My wife is submissive and looks up to me.

However many of the posters are wrong when it comes to their impression of my situation with my wife. I feel great, I feel like a high value man. The one thing I’m not 100% satisfied is my wife’s issue with self esteem. I found a way to lead her and influence her to grow out of this and I’m pleased with the result so far. As a high value man I refuse to be with a woman who believes she is low value (especially if I'm married to her and she's helping to raise my children). So I can either do 1 of 3 things. 1.) I can sit and complain about it. 2.) I can leave her. 3.) I can influence her into improving herself. I choose 3.

So now that I’ve upped her game, I need to up my game as well. How many times have we read in the RP material that having a lower SMV than your wife is not a good thing? And that we should do something about it? At the end of the day am I worried she’s going to leave me if she gets too hot? Of course not. However improving my SMV only puts me into a better situation if she did leave me for some Chad down the road.

So I have my life and relationship exactly where I want it to be. I have her going down a path I want her to go. Had I just focused on myself as many of you keep saying, my life wouldn’t be as great as it is today (because she’d still be an insecure mess who is clinging to me). I have the ability to fix the situation and I did. However many of you don't like it because it doesn't fit into your one dimensional belief that improving yourself only is the way to go because raising other people up with you is considered weak? This goes completely against what I read in the way of the superior man.