I had a failure in frame on Saturday.

My wife and I had some disagreement. I don't even know what about anymore. She started to become disrespectful and challenging my authority.

So, I told her, "I'm going for my run now" instead of later that day like I had planned.

On that run, I made sure I came to the end of that workout so that I had an extra-long walk home.

Why?

To withdraw my presence from my wife to punish her. She wanted me around, and I changed up my entire workout routine to try to make her feel bad.

In hindsight, this was stupid for a couple of reasons:

  1. I didn't just withdraw from just her but also from my two kids - on a Saturday.
  2. I completely wasted nearly half an hour with that extra walk home, time that could have been used profitably.
  3. The only reason I did this was that I was trying to yield a response in her: guilt, disappointment, etc. (a very "nice guy" move).

That's not frame. Not mine. Not Christ's. It's foolishness.

I'm glad I went for the run. I'm glad I did it when I did it. However, the extra bit tagged onto the end was not representative of who I want to be.

I wanted to share this moment with you guys to help you avoid doing the same sort of thing.