Praying with my wife

OsmiumZulu · 2020-05-27T14:50:47+00:00

Friends once showed me the following model for family prayer:

A.C.T.S = Start the prayer with Adoration (why God is great or why we are in awe of him), then Confession of sins and asking God for strength to overcome them, next Thanksgiving for the ways God has blessed us and been faithful to us, finally Supplication (asking God to meet our needs).

When we do this I typically ask my wife about each of these things and we discuss them before praying. This pairs well with bible study.

agoodcrayon · 2020-05-26T21:59:26+00:00

Be transparent. Pray for change within yourself first.

I’ve prayed for people for 15 years and nothing’s changed. I’m sure they felt the call to repent and change but ultimately, it’s their choice to do it. You may never even see the results of prayer.

Satan rather have you falling apart than your wife because he knows you’re the head. He knows exactly how to make you falter. He knows all your weaknesses.

If you fall, your wife, kids, everything else your life touches will start falling apart.

Be strong and holdfast. If you’re not strong, get strong however that may be for you -physically, emotionally, spiritually, socially, mentally, etc.

If I were to be married and have a family, I’d lead a bible study and then pray in turns. Anything private or personal would be between me and God in my prayer “closet”.

I’ve only seen a handful of women in my life that study the Bible and have a prayer life on their own. This includes church-goers as well.

People play the church-goer card amazingly well. We should all get Oscars for such incredible performances.

Deep_Strength · 2020-05-26T23:36:31+00:00

Brother, you're overthinking this.

Matthew 6:9 “Pray, then, in this way: ‘Our Father who is in heaven, Hallowed be Your name. 10 ‘Your kingdom come. Your will be done, On earth as it is in heaven. 11 ‘Give us this day our daily bread. 12 ‘And forgive us our debts, as we also have forgiven our debtors. 13 ‘And do not lead us into temptation, but deliver us from evil. [For Yours is the kingdom and the power and the glory forever. Amen.’]

v9 - Praise God
v10 - Pray for God's will to be done on earth in each or any situation (and then go out and do it)
v11 - Provision for our needs (not our wants!)
v12 - Pray that we can forgive others
v13 - Pray to be able to resist temptations and for deliverance from them

These concepts from the Lord's prayer are in alignment with God's will that we should pray for. It's not just about you or your wife.

It seems if I pray for things that are personal to me, I will come off as weak and/or broken. If I pray for her, it will come off as preachy or my trying to change her. If I pray for us, then I am still trying to change her. If I don't pray for any of these 3 things, then I care more about anything and everything else.

For instance, if you are praying for yourself, pray for the Holy Spirit to help you handle situations in alignment with the fruit of the Spirit. In love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, humility, and self control. You don't have to go self-castigation mode where you're crying out that you're broken because X, Y and Z and need God's help to change. Focus on putting on the new rather than taking off the old.

For your wife, ask her what she wants you to pray for her for before you pray. If your wife is really a Christian, she shouldn't care if you point out some of her weaknesses and will want to work to change them. Christians by definition should be encouraging and helping each other to become more like Christ, and that includes pointing out areas where we sin and need to repent and go the other way

Title	Praying with my wife
Author	Wranglers74
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Date	May 26, 2020 9:31 PM UTC (3 years ago)
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