This is related to my post here: https://www.reddit.com/r/TrueChristian/comments/yjcnpg/how_should_a_pastor_deal_with_a_repentant_john/

I realize that paying for sex is a major sin and that the guy I know should not have handled his situation that way. But I empathize with what happened to him because losing hope to the degree he did was going to cause something to break.

The pastor at our church got after this guy and even publicly condemned him for his sin. Much like he did for my friend that decided to court two women for marriage. Something that he decided to leave for another church over.

The difference here is that this guy expected the pastor to keep confidence over this sin and did not. I find it rather distasteful that the pastor would decide to publicly condemn a guy for sin he repented of. But that's not what my main question here is since I got some good answers about my pastor's conduct on this matter already.

What I'm asking here is what should this guy do when talking to women about sexual history?

I know with fornication it doesn't really matter since SMV wise it helps men to admit they had sex before. Since a lot of virgins tend to be the more nerdy guys that talk about video games, books and the bible all the time. And those types repel women to the point they don't get any.

But since this guy slept with a bunch of women without earning it with his own SMV. The question is how should he approach telling a woman about what he did?

Asking because after what's been happening at church the guy doesn't know how best to bring it up. He knows that he wants to be honorable and forthright about what he has done. But doesn't know if getting it over with so to speak is the right thing to do or waiting until the woman can see more than just him being this guy that paid for sex.

Again I know that him lying or keeping this history of sin would be the easiest way to deal with it. However I do not think God would desire for a man to keep such a past entirely hidden from whoever he would marry.