Why do girls always complain they were 'used for sex' when they get dumped?

1z1z2x2x3c3c4v4v · 2017-07-06T18:32:16+00:00

Because its never her fault. Ever. Even when she cheats.

JackGetsIt · 2017-07-06T19:48:41+00:00

Women live and die on their social connections. Think of all women like mini politicians. They are always trying to play to their base and expand their base and not offend anyone unless it's politically beneficial. Have you ever noticed that it's really difficult to pin women down on where they want to eat, or their belief structures or who their friends are? It's because they are constantly trying to be tactful and benefit by playing both sides.

Now. Enter in a break up scenario. It's of the highest priorities for a women after a breakup to garner the lion share of sympathy, support, and friendship. Most women, despite all the modern propaganda, don't do well independently. Women are highly highly dependent on society and groups for support. When faced with a break up women will plan it out for months or even years before the event. You could say that you are always either falling towards or falling away from a women. There is no core loyalty. When the breakup does go down if a women thinks it will play to her base (the group of friends and acquaintances) she will use it. That time 4 years ago you bumped her during a fight because she blocked the door? It's now you slamming her against a wall. That time you yelled at her in the car and she yelled back? Verbal abuse. That time you said her mother's annoying? You have always hated her entire family. That time she was half asleep and she had begged you for a week to wake her with your dick? Rape. That time you got a text from the ex out of the blue? Cheating. And finally all of the sexual fun, kink and blow jobs is now you forcing her, you using her. In a female's logic if you didn't marry her and father her kids and are still paying the bills and fathering you used her for sex. Women use relationships, sympathy, and human empathy like weapons. Some weaponize more then others but all have it in their back pockets because society is gynocentric.

Where does this logic come from? One motivation: emotional decoupling from ex's. The same way it's easier for soldiers to go to war and kill the enemy if you de-humanize them women use self delusional tactics to help them emotionally move on to new partners.

Another factor at play stems from a deep seated survivor instinct women have. Warren Farrell notes, “Men’s greatest weakness is their facade of strength, and women’s greatest strength is their facade of weakness.” Rollo writes about this in an article he calls 'War Brides'. In tribal hunter gather cultures a good chunk of men in the tribe could die on hunting trips or scouting or going to war or defending invaders. Women on the other hand were left to pick up the pieces. Often times this meant her needing to quickly decouple from her former mate and re-attach to a new mate which might even be an invader or rapist. We also evolved from more primitive mammals that didn't co-habit and raise children jointly the way we've evolved too now. So there's probably still long lost instincts that men seed as many wombs and women gather as many protectors but only one alpha seed that doesn't necessarily have to stay around.

Finally we have a more modern issue that compounds this, "he used me!" effect. Modern feminism. Modern feminism establishes that women are victims of male patriarchy and must be on constant guard and proactive defense of oppressive masculinity, women must also look out for eachother. When your ex bad mouths you to her girlfriends she is signaling victimhood and confirming the group think of feminism. She will be praised for leaving you, she will be praised for 'outing' you as a patriarch and she will be rewarded for helping other women avoid you. This will give her elevated status in the group and she will get attention, and lots of other perks like social hangout time or support (room to stay, financial support and female attention and male attention when men get triggered by the false flag of a women's cries for help).

Bottom line, your girl is a slave to her biology, her estrogen, and modern Victim Olympics Feminist propaganda which when compounded by group think she is forced to flip the switch on you.

For more on this I recommend googling:

redpill the light switch effect

redpill the 6 stages of breaking up

redpill greatest hits

rollo war brides

dontbedenied · 2017-07-06T19:10:35+00:00

Because she has to be the victim.

After I dumped my girlfriend in what was an extremely one-sided relationship (Beta Bucks me doing everything for her), she harassed me for weeks. One of the last things she said to me was "Do you laugh like a maniac when you think about how you played me?" I was pretty hurt from the relationship because it was so shitty and I let her walk all over me, but that shit made me laugh. I don't know what mental gymnastics she did to arrive at the conclusion that beta bitch me "played her" for sex, but the fact that she did is evidence that women will come up with anything to excuse their behavior and be a victim.

VasiliyZaitzev · 2017-07-06T19:54:15+00:00

Women are the Gatekeepers of Sex and men are the Gatekeepers of Commitment, so when Sally Sugartits gets pumped and dumped then yes she did get used; she gave up her vag without extracting anything of value from the guy. Meanwhile, her N count just went "+1" and she's one notch closer to the Thousand Cock Stare.

jb_trp · 2017-07-06T20:40:12+00:00

Because the girl is play "Slut Game" and it didn't work. A slut isn't a woman who sleeps with a bunch of guys, a slut is a woman who has nothing else to offer a guy but sex and so no guy commits to her. Sure, they'll hook up and have fun, but the woman's RMV (relationship market value) is so low, she can't get what she wants from the man: Romantic commitment.

And because she only offered sex (because that's the only thing of value she has), and the guy took it, she feels like he "used her for sex" because he didn't commit. She gave him her "best," and her best wasn't good enough. Honestly, if women want high value men to commit to them, they need to have more to bring to a relationship than a warn wet hole between their legs. And sadly, too many women don't really have anything to offer that a few plates can't easily fulfill (and be replaced!).

Men are very logical. When the benefit of being in a relationship isn't even close to the cost, men don't want to be in a relationship.

NexusReflexX · 2017-07-06T18:49:28+00:00

Because they do feel used. This is probably going to get a lot of controversy here by the "alpha dogs" of this sub, but a girl isnt a piece of meat. To use a girl for just sexual satisfaction IS using a girl. Im not saying its wrong, im not saying its right, it just is.

To me, woman are for my entertainment. A quality woman can and will better your life. Theyll cook for you. Theyll give you lots of laughs. Theyll clean. And youll give them mind blowing sex in return, as well as security and comfort.

They wont, however, give you happiness. They wont give you the will to live. They wont give you a purpose. All fof that comes from within.

RedSkeller · 2017-07-06T19:18:19+00:00

Because pumping and dumping is the ultimate rejection for a woman, driving them so seek the shelter of social media, friends and exs.

jcrpta · 2017-07-06T21:29:33+00:00

It's a rationalisation used to make them feel better.

80% of relationships are ended by women; women are naturally very good at finding things wrong with their partner and blowing up the relationship.

So when the tables are turned and she gets dumped... well, hang on a minute, when she does the dumping it's because there's something wrong with her partner. So if her partner's just dumped her, it follows there's something wrong with her....

Ouch.

The hamster won't let that line of thought continue for any length of time; it jumps in immediately with "unless, of course, there's nothing wrong with you; he was using you".

balalasaurus · 2017-07-06T21:45:52+00:00

There's a concept in economics that pretty much dictates all principles that follow: demand and supply. Where it applies to the SMP is simple. Relationships between men and women revolve around the demand and supply of each other's currencies. For men it's time and commitment. For women it's sex. We demand each respectively and supply our own for the other.

When a women feels 'used for sex' it's because she either supplied more of her currency and demanded more than she received, or overvalued her own currency demanding more commitment and supplying less of her own. Either way, the discrepancy in the exchange is what arises in said feelings.

The fact of the matter is, women often over-value their own currency and demand more than they supply. However because they aren't rational actors in the conventional sense, this principle of human relations is often lost on them. Keep in mind that men can also under-supply their currency - commitment, and over-demand women's'. However, the former, all things being equal, occurs more than the latter.

IVIaskerade · 2017-07-06T20:37:24+00:00

she still got what she wanted

No she didn't. This is basic TRP shit.

Mildly_Sociopathic · 2017-07-06T22:50:30+00:00

Because she wanted more or at least the possibility of it developing into something more (can serve for great validation that you're worth commiting to).

She feels duped, she feels cheated and so, used. She didn't get what she wanted and the relationship ended while not being in her favour.

[deleted] · 2017-07-07T00:26:21+00:00

She was likely using sex as a trade off for a relationship/commitment, but without commitment, the man got what he wanted from her without "giving up" anything.

nightmancommeth · 2017-07-06T19:00:55+00:00

Its a coping mechanism

M1ster_X · 2017-07-06T20:29:06+00:00

Because they know they WERE being used for sex, but don't want to admit it. Women have much stronger sensibilities than men do, image...or perceived image...is everything to them. This why they classify getting fucked in a bathroom stall 5 minutes after meeting a high SMV guy as "having fun" or "Seeing what's out there". They want to slut it up without being reminded they're slutting it up.

Dumping one, or dropping a plate, puts all that into perspective and then she hamsters herself into the thought process that she wasn't the one who was brazen desiring sex, but the man she was fucking. She only accidentally fell on your dick X amount of times.

johnnight · 2017-07-07T09:13:42+00:00

Women trade sex for "stuff". It's a covert contract. The consensual sex is done with the expectation that it will result in at least a relationship. Even if her rational brain says "I agree it's just sex", her unconscious brain judges the situation on the gains and gives her bad emotions for not achieving any return.

Men trade "stuff" for sex. That's why you see betas get angry, when they invested "stuff" and got no sex in return.

Both sexes do this.

Kommanderdude · 2017-07-06T22:05:53+00:00

Because women are like children and never want to take any responsibility and look to blame others for everything. Same reason my ltr's road rage incidents are always the other drivers fault. In reality, 90% are actually her fault.

[deleted] · 2017-07-06T21:58:14+00:00

They want other people to see them as less slutty then they really are.

JackGetsIt · 2017-07-06T20:31:19+00:00

It's a simple dodge of responsibility.

rubenescaray · 2017-07-06T22:07:35+00:00

Because they realize they're not that special, they realize their vag has not magic powers to control men or especifically a men she was attracted, and they see are just another girl...

Women feel they are special, that they deserve everything because she is who she are, they feel entittled.

mrpoopistan · 2017-07-07T05:49:05+00:00

Human beings are not rational. They feel then rationalize, which is a whole different ball game.

It's a little bit cognitive dissonance and a little bit sour grapes.

estar5 · 2017-07-07T13:15:07+00:00

Except in the scenario she wakes up one day & is bisexual, now wants a girlfriend & y'all break up

Willow-girl · 2017-07-07T13:53:45+00:00

Most women, even nice girls, are essentially raised to be prostitutes. They are brought up with the expectation that they'll get something (even if it's just a vague promise of a relationship) in return for "giving up the goods."

Women who do not toe the line and uphold this standard -- who "give it away" -- are usually harshly censured, especially by other women, as they threaten to break up the monopoly on pussy. They're branded "sluts" and "tramps." There is, in a weird way, a stigma against women who aren't prostitutes! So a woman who fucks you with no strings attached may feel guilty about doing so -- she's broken the rules. She's "sold herself too cheaply" and may try to recapture some value after-the-fact.

MattyAnon · 2017-07-07T14:32:24+00:00

Victim mentality, blameshifting, entitlement-to-marriage.

It's designed to elicit beta whiteknighting protective instincts.... "I wouldn't just use you for sex, I'd marry you first!"

W_O_M_B_A_T · 2017-07-07T15:14:16+00:00

Translation, "at least the sex was good and easy, but I was kind of a bitch to him, tee hee hee. But I can't admit to slutting it out to anybody, even myself, so it must be him that was doing it."

It's 100% pure Projection.

Remember that a man, any man, is responsible for all of a woman's shortcomings, poor choices, or any other negative traits she doesn't want to acknowledge.

dylanrockz2002 · 2017-07-07T14:41:12+00:00

Chicks don't complain when you actually dick them well, mate. They only complain about getting used for sex when the sex was bad because they had sex and still DIDNT get what they wanted. Not my fault some men have small todgers and can't navigate minge. Girls don't mind me "using them" because I'm straight up about it and my todger is massive Lol

Title	Why do girls always complain they were 'used for sex' when they get dumped?
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