Why do I lose all my confidence and momentum after jerking off?

Rkingpin · 2018-12-05T18:22:54+00:00

You've tricked your nervous system into thinking you've achieved your life purpose.

Cue the cocktail of lazy hormones

The_Phoenecian · 2018-12-05T18:04:10+00:00

It is certainly not just you. I gather that some guys can do it and feel no negative changes, while others feel effects like those you described: apathy, low energy, lack of game, antisocial tendencies etc.

I fall into the latter category as well. Just stop doing it for a while and see how much better things get. Best of luck.

Radinax · 2018-12-05T18:53:52+00:00

Happens to me as well, meditating helped me a LOT.

bilabrin · 2018-12-05T19:56:24+00:00

Having an orgasm triggers hormonal changes in your body. It absolutely has a noticeable effect. I can't speak for others but the longer it's been since I came, the more energetic and confident I feel....to a point. After 6 weeks it gets a bit weird.

koedeloe · 2018-12-05T18:22:59+00:00

I only fap once a week and before I go to bed after a heavy workout, makes me sleep well.

JerryLawlerPigFace · 2018-12-05T18:22:55+00:00

It has to do with your dopamine reward system being fucked with. As I understand it, dopamine is the chemical primarily associated with motivation, ambition, drive, etc.

cat_magnet · 2018-12-05T22:08:12+00:00

I only cum when I fuck now. I enjoy sex a lot more and feel a lot more motivated. I do have a live in LTR and up until a few days ago I had a tasty fwb as well so it wasnt too hard. I think if I didnt have sex then I would cum weekly.

KrustyKrabReject · 2018-12-05T18:14:56+00:00

Head over to /nofap. See how things are for you.

jaw8625 · 2018-12-05T19:47:18+00:00

I feel exactly the same way. Not even just my game - its like life just feels dreary/dull/like im not all the way there. After a few hours of work or going to the gym, that feeling usually goes away.

man, its as addictive as any drug - and ive been addicted to them all. I used to have days where I would jack it 7-8 times. Going out into the world after that you just feel like a ghost.

I was doing nofap from september - november. Let me tell you - I never felt sharper, more confident, more content, strong and optimistic on a consistent basis in my life. I had so much energy. I also was having sex generally 3-4 days a week, so that helped. My dick game was unreal. You cant go crazy, my rule was if I went 10 days without sex (which did happen once) I would let one slip out.

Unfortunately, I relapsed about 4 days ago. And already its a problem again. Its kind of like smoking - the first 3 days are hard and then it gets easy. I need to get back on track tomorrow.

[deleted] · 2018-12-05T20:34:45+00:00

If it doesn't work for you, don't do it. I noticed this as well. I get all lazy and soft. I found I get this way after eating an unhealthy meal too. Your main hindbrain drive in life is reproduction and food. Once you achieve those your brain doesn't see fit to do anything else. Your mission is complete. Some guys don't have a problem, but that's because we're all different.

Wolveryn · 2018-12-06T10:09:56+00:00

Low serotin from too much sex or porn fogs the mind...

The human mind isn't engineered for that degree of highs and lows that often.

For most of history we've spent most of our efforts surviving... obeying no sex before marriage rules... and lower sex drives from poorer health.... Its not natural to jerk off... it strips you of your manhood.

SalporinRP · 2018-12-05T23:02:24+00:00

Gotta just break the cycle of beating it every 1-2 days. The way my schedule works I have a heavy lift thursday night and rub one out before I go to bed. I sleep like a baby and I simultaneously "clean the pipes" before any sexual activity during the weekend. That's my only jerkoff session of the week and there's some weeks where I don't jerkoff at all because of seeing plates during the week.

Flintblood · 2018-12-06T02:24:26+00:00

Kek. Bro science questions always get the most responses

Flintblood · 2018-12-06T02:44:42+00:00

I think time of day could be a factor. Fapping during bedtime or before waking up might affect you less.

If I’ve had real sex during the day, I feel more on top of the world like I’m wearing that afterglow aura all day. If you fap in the middle of the day, you’re more likely wearing an aura of shame.

EDIT: Get away from porn or anything porn like now. I did and it reshaped many perspectives. It’s an addicting activity like drugs that will rob your CNS of dopamine and mess up your mesolimbic dopamine pathway - it will make you like a coke user after prolonged use.

blattebasket · 2018-12-06T03:04:46+00:00

Refractory period. I believe is can be brought on by some nutrient deficiency’s.

throwawayycheyeah · 2018-12-05T21:04:27+00:00

Just take a few weeks off of it and see if it changes.

DanishApollon · 2018-12-05T23:18:03+00:00

You feel shame. Check out the book No More Mr Nice Guy by Robert Glover.

A_solo_tripper · 2018-12-06T00:28:32+00:00

I feel like I'm on point and on top of my game when I havent beaten it in a few days/weeks.

Do you get laid or no when you are "on top of your game"? Do you get numbers "on top of your game"? Make-outs "on top of your game"? Do you prefer being "on top of your game" or do you prefer feeling withdrawn and not at all happy & energetic? The decision is yours to make.

goblinboglin · 2018-12-05T18:57:05+00:00

either you are reading that nofap bullshit and it's acting its placebo effect out

or it's the natural prolactin raise after release, it's normal man, just wank off before you go to bed

mseand · 2018-12-05T19:17:33+00:00

Dude jerking off theoretically can be considered a sedative

Edit: i don’t feel less confident, but sometimes I do knock right out

Aesthetik_1 · 2018-12-05T21:13:36+00:00

It used to be exactly like this for me but lately it has been completely opposite. I also feel better in general that may have something to do wit it.

masterduelistky · 2018-12-06T02:49:11+00:00

I feel exactly the same. It’s probably because I watched way too much porn when I was young, it’s so easy to mess up your sexual drive. I can’t think about normal girls I see everyday and do it, it’s always these unrealistic models, which makes you not even try anymore....I honestly think that doing it is fine every once in a while, but when it becomes mandatory to watch porn to get off I think that’s when it becomes a problem.

_Benny_Lava · 2018-12-06T04:00:37+00:00

You must feel as if you are doing something wrong.

coldser · 2018-12-06T07:38:19+00:00

Dont fap unless you are horny that is the key for me

PatnarDannesman · 2018-12-06T08:46:44+00:00

It's sexual urges that drive you. Release those urges and you're satisfied.

MakeMenGreatAgain44 · 2018-12-06T11:14:48+00:00

Pray for me to keep my hands off my dick. I always find excuses to do it.

rajesh8162 · 2018-12-06T12:21:10+00:00

Dehydration

TheHandsomeMF · 2018-12-06T12:49:53+00:00

Loss of androgen receptors in the brain.

Shtafoo · 2018-12-05T18:28:02+00:00

Has anybody else also noticed this direct correlation between your success with women (sinning) and the amount of semen that's in your balls? It's almost as if there's a spiritual battle going on between Jesus and Satan... between the spirit and the lusts of the flesh... oh wait

5For they that are after the flesh do mind the things of the flesh; but they that are after the Spirit the things of the Spirit. 6For to be carnally minded is death; but to be spiritually minded is life and peace. 7Because the carnal mind is enmity against God: for it is not subject to the law of God, neither indeed can be. 8So then they that are in the flesh cannot please God. ~Romans 8:5-8 KJV

someonesopinion6969 · 2018-12-06T08:26:31+00:00

LOl why you think?

Title	Why do I lose all my confidence and momentum after jerking off?
Author	blattebasket
Upvotes	85
Comments	108
Date	December 5, 2018 5:50 PM UTC (5 years ago)
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