How do I turn a conversation sexual if I've never had sex?

Governor_Humphries · 2019-03-08T17:10:17+00:00

Make/identify double entendres. Here's an example that has worked for me.

She says something like, "Wow, spring came early this year."

Response: "Well, we've all had that problem at one time or another."

DatingTank · 2019-03-08T17:40:21+00:00

You absolutely don't need to talk about sex, or talk sexual, to get sex. Actually it can just as easily be counterproductive as you make the whole thing too overt and kill the sexual tension. In fact, you being inexperienced, I can guarantee that you will mess it up if you try to talk yourself to having sex. Forget that notion completely. Focus on building sexual tension with connection, prolonged eye-contact, pauses, slowed down speak and physical escalation. That other idea is a waste of time.

Is sex your current sticking point? Do you regularly get girls to a location where sex is possible, and then you stall before it gets hot and heavy?

ayyy__ · 2019-03-08T19:59:02+00:00

I won't answer your question but I'll give you general advice.

The most important, non bullshit, non made up crap TRP teaches you is to work on yourself, work on improving yourself, work on accepting yourself, work on loving yourself. Seriously, once you do this shit, you will stop putting women, pussy, sex and whatnot so high, you cannot reach it. This is the only tangible and real thing TRP teaches you, everything else is just opinions, pseudo philosophy, pseudo science, and what not.

People who usually have issues with sex, women and life are generaly people with very low self esteem, people with high perception about themselves, about their flaws, about their insecurities, and trust me "fake it till you make it" is bullshit. It's the most retarded shit anyone can ever say to you.

Instead, what you're going to do is, you're going to invest time and money into yourself.

You will start exercising, doesn't need to be in the gym, but just exercise, go for a jog, go for a run, go for a walk, if you have dogs go take them for a walk. Do some abs, do some pull ups and push ups, do something... Watch youtube videos about weightless exercises, body weight exercises... If you're a newbie the initial gains are insane and will make a lot of difference and will give you an insane boost in confidence.

If you're fat, you will also lose weight, this means cutting on fast food, fried food, eating all the time, eating shit, just stop it. If you're hungry drink water or a cup of tea. Don't eat because you're bored, instead, do something else.

You're going to lose enough weight to fit into nice clothes, doesn't have to be expensive clothes but nice clothes that fit well and go well. If you don't know how to dress, ask the nice ladie at the store, look for outfits you like on people and replicate them, etc. Seriously you can build a couple of nice outfits for under 100$ at H&M or whatever your cheap but still with enough crap store where you live.

You're also going to pick a hobbie besides gaming all day. Interacting with real people will stop making you an autistic fuck. Talk with the lady on the counter, when you're shopping, talk with someone at the park, bus station, taxi or uber driver, just talk. Old people are good for this because they won't judge you and they will actually listen and talk back.

Read a book, if you don't like reading, watch documentaries about shit that interest you, don't do shit you don't like otherwise it will become a chore instead of something you enjoy. Like weapons? Like war? cars? Video games? Women? just watch something about those subjects. Learn random shit.

Go travel, serioiusly stop wasting money on expendable shit, unless you can afford, then go crazy. Not only you'll meet different people you will also make yourself more attractive to others.

Stop comparing yourself to your friends or people on social media. People only post the best of the best, which gives you the idea that your life sucks in comparisson.

Also, bear in mind that all of this is going to require massive ammount of will power, and this will determine if you really want this change or not.

To end this, If you can make these changes, if you can look in the mirror and love the person you see there, women will eventually want to be around you if you expose yourself enough. You don't need to be a fucking needy fuck who falls in love with every women who makes eye contact. You just have to be confident, no need for that fake till you make it bullshit. Once you actually improve yourself you won't need to fake anything and you will attract genuine people into your life.

PS: Sex isn't that big of a deal, stop watching porn, real sex with real people has almost nothing to do with what you see, also you're going to have a hard time getting hard and cumming for the lucky lady if all you do is grab your dick with your hand because no pussy will ever be that tight and no lady will be able to spank your meat better than you.

To make sexual inuendo talk you have to at least have the IQ higher than a banana, also seuxal inuendo isn't necessary to escalate. You can go for a dance, get closer, touch, these alone are much classier and will also work if you're not dealing with whores or women with higher rotation than the ISS. Also disregard my advice if you're Brad Pitt and buff like The Rock or alternatively, a milionaire.

Sad_Sleeper · 2019-03-08T20:06:48+00:00

Kino. Touching is more important than talking about sex. Lost my virginity 1 year ago at the age of 26. So i can relate.

Don't be afraid to touch her.

vandaalen · 2019-03-08T16:54:25+00:00

do you need to be a mechanic in order to talk about cars?

mrpoopistan · 2019-03-08T19:56:11+00:00

Never having sex doesn't stop 14 y.o. boys from turning every conversation sexual.

someonesopinion6969 · 2019-03-08T17:28:18+00:00

No one has given you actionable advice.

Apart from 'fake it till you make it' in all honesty, it's a learning process and you're not going to be a master of escalation when you haven't even fucked a girl.

I'm sure you know what being horny feels like that, work with that. sexually charge yourself and soon people with receptive, just dont be a hungry sob and you'll be good.

basically, learn to be seductive and you'll not need to turn the conversation sexual.

Incaahhh · 2019-03-08T19:39:10+00:00

The thing about being sexual is that is has to come off naturally. If you out of nowhere make stuff sexual then:

A) The girl will think youre weird B) The only girls who are receptive to this are thots (to each their own)

Physical contact can heat things up more than a conversation anyway so try to be better at reading her and casual conversations

vicious_armbar · 2019-03-08T17:16:31+00:00

I’ve found an actual video of op talking about sex.

suckisuckilongtime · 2019-03-08T17:19:03+00:00

Just make sure you don’t say tits feel like a bag of sand and you’ll be fine.

DubbleFUPAwitCheez · 2019-03-08T17:53:06+00:00

I always think verbal escalation is a cowardly man's kino EXCEPT if there is no ability for it. It doesn't even have to be big, a touch on the elbow is always a good start. How she responds to that gives you an indicator. If good then look for an opportunity to touch her side at or above the hip. After that you should know for sure if you're in or out.

Kemuser · 2019-03-08T17:04:51+00:00

Your age?

twllll · 2019-03-08T18:50:12+00:00

Read the rational male series, then read the tactical guide to woman.. get your shit together, and the girls will come, then they will turn the conversation sexual for you.

throwawaybpdnpd · 2019-03-08T21:43:50+00:00

Your questions should be:

“how do I get to have sex by turning a conversation sexual?”

cilantromakesmepuke · 2019-03-08T22:09:13+00:00

Tip to not be a virgin anymore and practice sex. Go to a bar, spot a cougar, grab a drink and start talking to her, anything, just normal day to day shit. When she asks you "so, what brings you here?", you just say "chilling after a long day and maybe finding someone (insert compliment) to take my virginity". Your social clumsiness will work in your favour and they seem to love this fantasy.

I know she's not going to be the ideal HB11 hot chick to compliment your SVM, but any big mountain climb starts with a little step, right?

[deleted] · 2019-03-08T22:14:11+00:00

Fake it till you make it. This expression exist for a reason.

redhawkes · 2019-03-08T22:37:38+00:00

Innuendo. When she says something, turn that into sexual context.

keelo44 · 2019-03-09T01:00:32+00:00

Just grab the pussy and hope for the best....wait.

gbnz87 · 2019-03-09T01:04:00+00:00

In your mind you have a scenario playing out in your head that you just rip each other clothes off and do it.

All you have to do is express those feelings to the girl but just don't just say "let's fuck" you have to be subtle and let her use her imagination.

I wouldn't memorise lines but just try and lead the conversation to sex when you see a chance to.

It takes practice to be good at it but just express whatever your mind wants.

throwawa6ksjdbendkfo · 2019-03-09T02:26:32+00:00

If you lift enough and max out your smv assuming your not deformed or autistic they will generally do the work for you. You just gotta hild frame and confident in that frame. The confidence comes from external validation. Unfortunately its a scenario of "how do i get work experience if all jobs require it" so until you have a few plates id say do your best and fake the rest. Smv + frame is basically 90% of game, the remaining is logistics. Game is kinda an ugly mans chore.

Random-Bert · 2019-03-09T14:37:20+00:00

Go back and read the sidebar.

phareux · 2019-03-08T18:01:10+00:00

Go lift and when you get big enough

she will be like “wow you must work out”

Then you can be like “overhead press makes dat pussy wet” or something else like “bicep peaks makes bitches knees weak”

She’ll probably think ur an idiot but still fuck you anyway cause ur big as shit

assholesfinish1st · 2019-03-08T17:52:15+00:00

Have you ever discovered America before? Then what right do you have to talk about Leif Erikkson or Christopher Columbus?

You can talk about what you've learned, and you should also read the sidebar.

10points4gryffinddor · 2019-03-08T18:31:57+00:00

Improvise af and follow ur own lead

Title	How do I turn a conversation sexual if I've never had sex?
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Date	March 8, 2019 4:37 PM UTC (5 years ago)
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