Anyone else getting this ?

PotatoWatt · 2019-08-03T19:09:14+00:00

Bro, this happened to me. I had amazing frame with this chick, but got 'in love' and boom there goes my frame down the shitter. Half a year or had work in the gutter. I became a zombie. I saw her lose interest. I slapped myself everyday and everynight for being this retard, I literally cried.

Want to know what happened? I waked myself up. I matured mentally. In 2 months of everyday just thinking about how I fucked up this shit, how I could be such a pussy, how im a true man, how im awesome, and how she likes the awesome me. I changed my perspesctive.

It wasnt 1 year of reading TRP. It wasnt the books I read. It was actually failing hard and losing frame hard that I woke up.

Thats when I finally got why people say failure is necessary, because I just matured SO FUCKING MUCH in 2 months of everyday meditating, thinking about my fuck ups, manning up, lifting.

In these 2 months I just... I cant even express it my dude. Its like the light finally shun (shun?) at me. I lost my 'depression'. I lost the feeling that I wasnt enough. I feel awesome. I lift with the goal of getting stronger, not for pussy. I just... matured bro.

What I can tell you is this: Go learn life. Expose yourself to rejections. Expose yourself to failing. Let it all out. Spend nights without sleeping thinking about how much of a fuckup you think you are. Post it here. You will see that you are overthinking life a lot, and that personal replies here dont always are correct. Sometimes not all the information is available and we make a reply out of the information we got.

So yeah bro I hope you got something out of here, I want you to know this: I feel like your journey is starting, try to just not be lazy, experience everything you can, fail hard. Cry. Let it all out. Because experience with TRP knowledge saves you so many years of trial and error you dont even know. Only when I failed hard and exposed myself was when I matured. I knows its hard to do the shit I wrote here, I felt that way too. You'll get there my dude. I was thinking I was a fuck up, I was late at life. And now I see that im actually so fucking ahead of my peers its unfair honestly. You'll learn so much it will be fucking unfair for everybody else.

When it rains, it pours.

Two_kids_in_a_coat · 2019-08-03T18:26:48+00:00

If you feel you’re losing frame then STFU. Once you start to DEER it’s going downhill fast. So if you catch yourself doing this, stop talking. Learn to be comfortable in silence.

Foolishoe · 2019-08-03T18:07:11+00:00

Sure. Jocko W talks about that frame of mind where you are watching yourself live your life. It can be fantastic or terrible depending on what channel you leave your life on.

rad_dynamic · 2019-08-03T18:10:35+00:00

Once she breaks your foundations everything else will follow. Solution? Don't let her effect you enough for this to happen. Need women less, and you'll have stronger foundations

[deleted] · 2019-08-03T17:33:30+00:00

Fuck what she thinks

HumanSockPuppet · 2019-08-04T03:35:09+00:00

Good. It should feel like shit. That sensation is the feeling of compromising your masculinity in the hopes of having a bitch pat you on the head.

You don't learn without pain to reinforce the lesson. Let it make you stronger and more resolute next time.

Rkingpin · 2019-08-03T17:20:26+00:00

Na. Take it easy on the games

Maninthehighhustle · 2019-08-03T20:17:06+00:00

You will eventually lose frame, but think life as a war and frame as a battle, you may lose a few battles but eventually, you can win the war. Each battle lost is also a great teacher about the ruthless nature of warfare, life and existence is hard, so do not get mad/sad when you loose frame, just embrace the failure, accept it then work on it and make sure it does not happen next time and also remember that everything is temporary, you may need some level of detachment from reality for achieving outcome independence.

Awokeeleven · 2019-08-03T17:48:24+00:00

Yeah, go on

uptimex · 2019-08-03T18:12:52+00:00

Yess. Exactly the same. It is so predictable. Also I am waiting for another opportunity to reestablish the frame.

20mcgug · 2019-08-03T19:29:15+00:00

Maybe look into depersonalization/derealization

Redditorsheaven · 2019-08-03T21:36:34+00:00

Can anyone explain what is the frame exactly?

rockyp32 · 2019-08-03T23:45:40+00:00

How’d you lose Frame

XXXMersenne · 2019-08-04T01:17:36+00:00

Yea dude because all social conventions are a game and know when you're not acting in accordance with what you believe to be attractive etc etc.

[https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=fqqE1BLvISI](Alan Watts)

[deleted] · 2019-08-03T17:44:58+00:00

I relate dude. At that point you might as well move on.

Title	Anyone else getting this ?
Author	Yavuzest
Upvotes	122
Comments	35
Date	August 3, 2019 2:42 PM UTC (4 years ago)
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