Days apart: woman stares at me at the gym, see her at local park the next week and stares at me at the park. I approach her and she tells me she has a bf. Why do women do this?

VasiliyZaitzev · 2019-10-15T03:30:12+00:00

Women tell you they have boyfriends for three reasons:

A. They actually have a boyfriend, and they’re trying to stay loyal to him and are warning you off.

B. They don’t have a boyfriend, but you do not meet their minimum SMV requirements, and they want you to fuck off.

C. It’s a form of anti-slut defense. So later they can hamster away things by thinking ”I told him I haz bf and he fucked me anyway, that big brute.”

newwinterleaves · 2019-10-14T21:51:13+00:00

Say “I barely just met you and you’re already telling me your problems” and move on.

IXseed · 2019-10-14T23:47:50+00:00

Too many reasons to list. We're programmed as humans to check out other humans we find attractive even if we are in relationships and shit.

MasterShake777 · 2019-10-14T21:57:50+00:00

"ha how long have you had that problem" then keep talking until she tells you to fuck off or walks away. Patience and persistence.

no_condoments · 2019-10-14T23:06:24+00:00

Meh. Imagine this story from the other way around with a girl complaining "Why would a guy check me out if he already has a girlfriend?"

setsuna0 · 2019-10-15T00:35:52+00:00

Women do this because they like you. Then you went over there and bombed her BF shit-test. You’re mad at her, but you should be mad at yourself. Just keep approaching and break down the BF barrier with at least a few more mins of flirting. It gets easier. If you don’t want a woman with a BF great - but at least pass the shit-test like a man and then excuse yourself.

ArnoldT1000 · 2019-10-15T02:18:19+00:00

What the fuck are these answers. It’s a shit test.

“Nice”

You lazy motherfuckers need to read the god damn sidebar.

novalentineforyou · 2019-10-15T01:26:52+00:00

Just because she has a boyfriend doesn't mean she's not interested.

FrozenTreeStump · 2019-10-14T21:46:19+00:00

Approach more. On to the next one

vandaalen · 2019-10-14T21:45:34+00:00

Stop looking for cues and approach women you want to approach.

W_O_M_B_A_T · 2019-10-15T01:47:41+00:00

Who cares why they do it? Is it against the law to window shop even if you have no intention of going in the store?

Approach other women.

Flintblood · 2019-10-15T01:54:39+00:00

I’m finding out more and more each day her relationship status doesn’t matter. The only situations I absolutely walk away from are married women and when I know the boyfriend well. If I don’t know the guy, I’ll still talk but what she does after that is on her and not me.

furcryingoutloud · 2019-10-15T01:47:17+00:00

Stop giving choosing signals if you’re not interested.

Read the fucking side bar and find out why this is a terrible response.

Shit test. What's funny is that this sub is what now, a teen dating advice forum? Only a couple of people have said it's a shit test. Some people here should really read the sidebar and get a little knowledge into their skulls before pretending to impart knowledge they don't have.

Read the fucking sidebar.

"I have a boyfriend" is the oldest response in the book. Probably on the first page of the red pill bible.

__TheDon__ · 2019-10-15T02:44:17+00:00

“That’s okay, I am not the jealous type”

“Sweet, he can make us breakfast the morning after”

Use whatever line you want. Make sure to throw a little smirk in there. Don’t be too serious and just have fun. Worst thing she can do is say no. Remember, reject is better than regret.

thrwy75479 · 2019-10-15T04:22:14+00:00

There's no such thing as a single girl. You're always competing against another guy, either her fantasy, or someone real, or a bunch of orbiters. There is always someone else, irrespective of how hot or ugly she may be.

If she has a real partner, then what she wants is plausible deniability so she can fuck around, or swing. She wants to be able to say, "it just happened," or, "I told him but he kept pushing. It's his fault," anything to absolve herself of responsibility so she can maintain her reputation.

Further, it shows that you don't care, and you're bold enough to go for what you want, which, in such a case, would be her. It also shows that you're woke, and know what the game is all about. Always assume attraction, and march forward. Even if you don't score right away, at least she's aware that you're a sexual guy, and you won't be part of her emotional tampon collection.

mortalcoil1 · 2019-10-15T12:38:11+00:00

No male has ever stared at a hot girl when they have a girlfriend. It's literally unheard of.

Pockyaf · 2019-10-15T03:14:59+00:00

She probably have adhd and a staring problem

Savior1666 · 2019-10-15T01:18:26+00:00

On one hand, I wouldn't hit on girls at my gym, The Gym is a place of Worship and Praise to the Brodin, the AllSpotter and the other Gods of Iron.

On the other hand you approached her outside of a gym setting, which is great.

For the "IHAB" shit test, ignore, or defuse(shit test lists) If she's still talking to you then you're good, however, if she gets angry etc etc, then you leave.

You did pretty good approaching though, next time, just relax more. If you had taken into account all the Eye Hustlin' she was doing over the times you were meeting her, you'd have remembered that she gave you the go-ahead to approach.

However, I wouldn't approach her again at my gym, the gym is YOUR time, not some girl's I don't even like talking to other dudes at the gym unless I'm working in with em or they're spotting me.

drakehfh · 2019-10-15T05:51:01+00:00

Simple shit test. "I have a girlfriend too...but don't tell that to my wife! I'm joking, I'm not that kind of guy... she already knows."

AnneStaz · 2019-10-14T23:29:22+00:00

Be normal dude, "oh okay my bad I got the wrong signal" and just have normal conversation. Maybe shes cool and bonus she may have cute friends

MR_SKINNYPENIS69 · 2019-10-15T03:50:58+00:00

You should've done the ole whip-dick. Whip out dick and let the cards fall where they may.

NobodyP1 · 2019-10-14T23:09:41+00:00

Lot of witty lines here I like to use “so your bf doesn’t let you talk to other people”

Kn31 · 2019-10-15T06:16:33+00:00

Wtf is this shit,. No one reads the sidebar? "Why do women do this" LOLLLL damn idk uhh hypergamy that's the whole premise of trp. I swear this shit gets more soy everyday. 90% are who don't read anything and keep asking the same stupid shit.

VasiliyZaitzev · 2019-10-15T10:22:01+00:00

For some reason, I imagined this when originally reading the OP: "You are the one that stares at me."

4thAndLong · 2019-10-15T12:11:36+00:00

"I have a boyfriend" is a shit test.

You could have passed it.

MattyAnon · 2019-10-15T14:17:46+00:00

Stop giving choosing signals if you’re not interested. My approach was telling her I’ve seen her at the gym and asking her name, just shit any decent person would say.

She's interested/attracted despite bf. Women are instinctive and not helpful to you or logical in what they seek. It's just how they are.

KillaJewels · 2019-10-15T14:44:19+00:00

Dude, that's just the auto-response for every female getting approached. Sometimes it's true, but generally it's safe to assume it's not.

Flintblood · 2019-10-15T15:35:11+00:00

Think of it this way. Maybe she is establishing operating parameters up front. She could be interested in a side situation but wants you to know up front that she can’t commit.

I’ve had girls vibe with me a lot and drop big IOIs after previously telling me they have a long distance boyfriend. My mistake in the past was backing off getting awkward, and not letting things happen organically because I simply heard the BF word.

bodybuilder98 · 2019-10-15T16:30:57+00:00

She wants to see if you have the a) guts to cold approach and b) game to pass her shit test and snatch her away from her "boyfriend". She's yearning for someone to break the monotonous life she's currently living.

Why is it so hard for guys to understand?

champuradopapi · 2019-10-15T04:51:20+00:00

Next time just say “Cool, he can be your BF and I be your man-friend ;)”

exscionewhuman · 2019-10-15T03:36:11+00:00

Good time for fake it to make it. Pretend you have too much sex. Pretend you have a mission that you dream about and keeps you up at night because you think you have a shot of making a difference, making a lot of people happy. Tired. Bored of silly feelings. There's that one girl you brushed off today. Stopped that other girl from giving you a blowjob last night because meh. A girl is looking at you. Uh... so?

Boil it down, you noticed her staring, it's still on your mind, she broke your frame. Find a mission no one can break. Believe it or not, it's installed already. It's inside you. Just have to find it.

Pussy is a bonus. Knowing who you are and having a purpose is a must.

yansydney · 2019-10-15T08:53:16+00:00

Maybe try approaching girls who arent making eye contact that's maybe why they are still single😢😭

crkdopn · 2019-10-15T09:28:01+00:00

I don't think it warrants a post on this sub but we should all know to at least approach and say hi. That's the least we can do and even if you bomb, trying and failing is better than not trying and regretting.

mustache_ride_ · 2019-10-15T11:39:10+00:00

Because you had something in your teeth.

Crixusgannicus · 2019-10-15T11:40:03+00:00

Ok time for some higher level/Dark Side Red Pill.

A woman telling you she has a bf or asking if you have a gf it is NOT automatically game over.

There are women who will ONLY fuck guys who have a gf.

MOREOVER

There are women who will ONLY fuck guys who are MARRIED.

When one has been ey balling you and then says she's married or has a boyfriend she might be willing to trade up or just wants some side action. On the downside, she might just be using you for attention. Only way to find out is to find out.

Now anytime this happens and you are willing to "Embrace the Dark Side" keep going and explore what she's thinking, feeling, wanting, further. You might be pleasantly surprised.

Keep in mind though it's something over 50% likely it's too late with that particular one from your OP. Still you could shoot your shot at exploring with that one. It'll be educational.

razenha · 2019-10-15T15:11:06+00:00

Why men who have girlfriends or wives stare at other women?

821sleepingbag · 2019-10-15T15:46:20+00:00

Hahaha that’s great and original

beefstockcube · 2019-10-14T21:55:45+00:00

“Ha, I was asking your name, I’m polite. I wasn’t asking you in a date. I’m OP” walk away.

astonboi01 · 2019-10-14T22:42:41+00:00

‘I’ve got a boyfriend too’ or ‘Do you want an upgrade’ whilst maintaining strong eye contact, tell her your name and leave.

FlyingSexistPig · 2019-10-15T02:04:20+00:00

"what's your man got to do with me?"

PhaedrusHunt · 2019-10-15T03:55:16+00:00

"oh you have a boyfriend that's interesting. my dad always told me anytime that you see a beautiful woman just remember somewhere that there is a man that's probably sick of her shit."

then she says something like oh is that why you're talking to me because you think he would be sick of me?

And you say no of course not why would he be sick of you?

then she sucks you in the arm or something and says are you saying I'm dumb jokingly.

And you say hey at least you're smart.

And then you're gaming her.

Nanny nanny boo boo, you failed a shit test!