I had my fiance of 8 years cheat on me. I confided in two close mates, one where I was the best man and the other I have known for over 20 years (I call him my cousin, because our families are close).

When opening up to them they could see how badly the experience had fucked me up. They would say things like:

- what's wrong with this bitch?

- whatever you need I'm here for you

Etc.

Fast forward a few months, I find out they had been doing double dates and hanging out with her and the guy she's now seeing . Also found out that during the times me and the ex were fighting and I was out with the boys, she would message them to get an update on what I was doing.

For me I've always lived by the notion if you treat me good I'll treat you better but if you fuck me over I'll go scorched earth on you.

I have no problem dropping these guys, the experience has made me see who my close friends are and I now appreciate them more.

Today I had my mum ask why she hasn't seen my "cousin" around. I explained the situation to her she and she says I'm being unreasonable.

Just curious to get your thoughts, what would you have done in my situation? Would you have dropped these guys or continued to be close mates?