If moving in with a guy make it known ahead "you will not be their mom, they are expected to also clean, cook, wash dishes, etc"

Reasonable_Amoeba_89 · 2021-09-01T08:30:27+00:00

This is a constant in the feminist world and on the face of it looks perfectly reasonable. Men and women should share household work equally but there is subtle misandry here.

The narrative is always "Don't allow men to expect you to do everything" which is fine and honourable. However they always fail to mention that other, more traditionally masculine, chores should be on women too. That is:

If a light bulb goes I expect you to understand the difference between a bayonet and screw fitting and to be able to change it. If we are out of lightbulbs I expect you to be able to take the broken lightbulb out and buy the correct (wattage, LED / Dimmable etc) from the local store and fit it
When the wifi goes down I expect you to have a basic understanding as to where the router is, how to reboot it, that you reboot the internet service provider's modem first then our router afterwards. You perform some investigation (does the internet work on your phone / tablet / laptop) first rather than just hollering down the stairs at me the second it goes down
If your car is playing up I expect you to have a basic understanding as to how the engine works, be able to verify plugs, hi tension leads etc are connected and looking good. I expect you to be able to use the ODB2 connector to get the fault codes from it and google what they may mean and how you fix them
Similarly I expect you to be able to jump start your car and understand the importance of connecting the jump leads in the correct way
You should be able to use a drill, and be able to put up shelves in a straight manner
You should be able to put together flat pack furniture without needing constant help and guidance. Flat pack furniture is not about you doing your best then calling me in if it goes wrong it's about you getting it put together from start to finish and disposing of all the packaging it came in so it's removed
I expect you to know where the fuse box is, and how to reset a fuse if something trips.

That's not a case of asking me how to do that, it's about being self reliant and if you don't know how to do it then you go to google and watch videos on how to do what you need to do.

Ultimately the misandric message coming through is men are lazy and expect women to do all of the household chores. The truth is usually far different. Women will often look blankly at a car engine that won't start, or broken wifi, or flat pack furniture that's not gone together properly. I've rented houses to single women who have expected me, as landlord, to act as surrogate father.

If I followed the misandric advice, to the letter, then I would've left single women in total darkness, without electricity, in houses because "don't expect me to be your dad".

Yet, with the misandric advice as given, you never, never, never see misandrists urge themselves to be self sufficient and to take their share of the household chores.

elmiraguth · 2021-09-01T08:22:02+00:00

This is not really misandry. I can understand the sentiment. Of course as a guy, you reply: And I will not be your breadwinner, we split all expenses equally (or at least proportionally to each one's income).

Title	If moving in with a guy make it known ahead "you will not be their mom, they are expected to also clean, cook, wash dishes, etc"
Author	Reasonable_Amoeba_89
Upvotes	16
Comments	6
Date	September 1, 2021 7:55 AM UTC (2 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/EverydayMisandry
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