I’m struggling on dating apps

julianbeing · 2022-02-03T17:32:38+00:00

You are 19. The only advice I can give to you is to relax. Dating apps are not ideal to find a long-term partner anyways. There are success stories of course but you can't expect that. It's like buying a lottery ticket and getting mad that you didn't win.

However, if you keep using them for years and you start becoming good at screening superficial women out. Then you will eventually find someone, either through apps or real life.

Also, the older you get, the easier it becomes to attract women. When I was 19 I didn't have much going on for myself.

The bottom line - be patient.

UnitedIntroduction48 · 2022-02-03T05:35:24+00:00

You should be getting your profile reviewed in the bumble and hinge subs. No one here is gonna help you

Redbull6735 · 2022-02-03T05:57:39+00:00

If you see them later with a really ugly guy then that itself disproves the red pill doesn’t it?

Anyways just looksmax, take professional photos and make sure they’re good photos that aren’t too douchey or too soy looking and have a bio that is authentic but also not too weird or needy while not pushing away the largest number of people (don’t mention politics, religion, preferences, etc.) (even if a girl is not fat if you’re like “no fat bitches” she’ll probably swipe left for example)

Lauren_Aa · 2022-02-03T11:06:32+00:00

I don't think it's a matter or gender here. It happens on both sides. I'm in an app where you can make friends or find your soulmate and most men there don't have values and just care about weed/drinking or sex. I think it depends on where you live. As a Christian girl, I only find men and women with morals at church. That's all I can tell you.

Greenwithenv · 2022-02-04T10:34:31+00:00

Is there a way to get into contact with many people without dating apps where you live? For as many admitedly nice and fluffy stories about couples finding themselves from online dating apps, plenty got none but just headache from it.

Is there a way you can save up for future holidays or something? Staying in hostels and stuffs instead of hotels. I know, I know, Covid. But we will always have Covid and we have to look forward to the future too.

You are just 19 and I feel that you will have so much regrets if you only look at online dating apps for the source to meet people. You should see the world and interact with different people when you are still this young and not rotting in a place, scrolling dating apps.

Newbie1955 · 2022-02-03T14:49:51+00:00

If you want casual hookups, use dating apps. If you want a legitimate relationship, delete all the apps and go out into the world to meet women. Looking for love on apps is like looking for a deep, philosophical conversation on Twitter. The platform simply isn't set up for it.

FastMoneyRecords · 2022-02-03T17:05:25+00:00

You’re 19 kid, you’ve got a long way to go. I can understand the want for love, but at your age you can afford to make it less of a priority. My advice would be to have your fun and let love happen organically. If you’re looking too hard you might settle or mistake lust for love and end up in a situation that doesn’t work out; you’ll find yourself in the same boat again.

Try to stick with social gatherings, grocery stores, or any settings that involve a mutual interest if you’re looking for something more serious. Otherwise dating apps are good for flings, with a possibility of finding “the one”

lillianraine777 · 2022-02-05T01:28:23+00:00

Maybe look outside of Alberta? You're 19, you're really young, keep learning and growing as a person. Maybe you could go to places where you would have the same interests? lol, coffee shop, bookstore, grocery store, lol, or events around Alberta? Also, I am a woman and I could look at your profile and give you insight if you need it on your profile if you need it.

vcreativ · 2022-02-03T11:39:58+00:00

I’ve been told I’m very attractive and have a great sense of humour from my exes.

Considering there's more than one, how come they left?

I think it’s them not me.

It might be them, but it could also be your selection bias picking people ultimately supporting your view.

It’s difficult seeing women I tried talking to on these apps and then seeing them months later with a really ugly guy that has no job or values.

Not everyone will be into you. But some people also have issues, not everyone is healthy especially on dating apps.

It makes me mildly upset that I’m still waiting to find someone that will value my hobbies and personality

Don't be. If you find one in your lifetime for whom that's genuinely true, and you too value them, appreciate them, and fancy them. Then you've been quite lucky I'd say. You're at 19, I think it's ok to chill.

Title	I’m struggling on dating apps
Author	electronicfusionz
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Date	February 3, 2022 2:53 AM UTC (2 years ago)
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