To the RP men who have gone the LTR route, I implore you to think carefully before you next your partner. Don't forget that while you were sold the feminist agenda, so were we. Most woman who believe in RP philosophy (even when we didn't know it had a name) did not ride the CC and other feminist notions however many of us have gotten used to being our own captains. Either from being single or from our mate's BP days when, we were forced to be captain because our men had forgotten, or never really learned, that he was supposed to be leading the ship.

If she was a RP woman, she stayed with you when you went BP. She didn't cheat on you or trade you in for a better model, because that's not the kind of person she wants to be. She was fighting her hypergamous nature, for you! She tried to figure out why you were both unhappy but nothing really made sense. And then you found TRP.

As you struggle to get the pill down, please remember that this is a struggle for her too. You are asking her to put faith and trust back in you, when you may not have shown her that you can be reliable and trustworthy on a consistent basis yet. If you love her still, even a tiny bit, stand by her as she comes to terms with the changing relationship - just like she stood by you when you didn't even realize you were being BP. I'm not saying forever, but you can't undo 10 years in 2 months. And be prepared for setbacks. Because they will happen. It's just life.

Maintain frame. Be her calm, rational and strong oak. Stronger even than she is. And this may take more strength than the average guy, because these women, the ones who had the courage and strength not to succumb to the CC, who didn't allow their instincts for hypergamy to override their love for you when you were being BP, these are strong women. And you are going to have to be that much stronger to regain their trust. But when you do, there won't be anything the two of you wont be able to get through.