What's the MRP solution to gift-giving?

mordanus · 2015-03-27T01:20:50+00:00

My advice to you on this is that you are coming off as a bit of a follower and not a leader here. You are letting her dictate your actions.

she has told me to return stuff I told her about for being too expensive, or tells me not to buy her something I was considering getting her

Let me be very clear here man. You have to lead in this relationship. She doesn't get to give you the orders or the respect doesn't flow your way.

So you go out and buy her what you want her to have. If she bitches about it being too expensive then you tell her in a serious tone that she doesn't get to tell you what to do. Explain to her that making you take back gifts is insulting and she can take what you have to offer.

She is trying to show you that she isn't all about the money and that she doesn't want you to make a big fuss about her. This is her way of attempting to prove to you that she is a catch, and then trying to confirm that by getting you better gifts. In a way she is saying that she is doing more than you are in the relationship. So take charge and tell her what she is getting and you won't accept her challenging it.

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[deleted] · 2015-03-27T00:52:59+00:00

Buy yourself something nice and stop worrying

AZTRP · 2015-03-26T21:01:35+00:00

Get her a Glock 42 (.380), have the slide ceracoated to her favorite color and get your anniversary date etched on the back. Then take her ass to the range. If you aren't good at shooting then get an instructor. Bonus points if you have a custom colored kydex sheath made for her. I'd opt for an in-the-pants holster and a sleeve for the purse. More points if you have the money to throw on a laser grip/sight.

The frame is small enough for most female hands and doesn't have too much of a kick. Easy to use and clean.

"When I'm not around I can still protect my wife"

strategos_autokrator · 2015-03-27T08:17:07+00:00

She is close with my mom though so it will probably be discussed what I bought within the family.

The problem is you just want her to approve of the gift. Heck, you even want your MOM to approve of the gift.

Don't return it. She says it is too expensive, just say it doesn't matter, you just want her to have it. She says she wanted something else, maintain frame, and just say "But this is what I wanted to give you" that is all.

crayonsred · 2015-03-26T22:17:56+00:00

Pick an event you want to go to, like a concert or football game, but something she'd enjoy.

Then tell her for her birthday, you two are going to this awesome event. Maintain frame and solve problem.

vox_veritas · 2015-03-26T20:55:04+00:00

I don't know that this is a MRP issue per se, rather than an issue specific to your wife. If I were you, I would just get her something thoughtful that she may not expect, related to her interests. To me, that's better than yet another pair of earrings, etc. Or, maybe buy her a spa/manicure/massage session. I don't know if this is "redpill" or not, but in my experience these are the gifts that mean the most to the wife, and they're typically not prohibitively expensive.

Edit: If you're a decent cook, why not cook her her favorite meal, along with her favorite bottle of wine? For me, this is a nearly guaranteed panty dropper, which gets you both what you want - - she gets pampered, and you get a full belly and some bedroom action.

CaptainWasHere · 2015-03-27T23:04:26+00:00

It sounds like a combo of shit tests, ego and indecisiveness. Sounds like she makes enough to buy what she wants, when she wants it so she's confident. She may have a history of "I don't need a man to succeed" so you buying her expensive gifts scratches her independent woman facade. You making it an issue reminds her that you're not fully RP leader enough. And her female indecisiveness probably means that she doesn't know what she wants, but she does expect you to figure it out. So, what's the answer? - Adventure.

Weekend trip to the mountains.
Some adventure she's never done or hasn't done in forever - white water rafting, sky diving, parasailing, etc.
Something ridiculous that she can't just buy. - Pay a restaurant to get the chef to visit you at the head table.
Rent a Lamborghini for the weekend and just drive.
Take Scuba Diving lessons.

Make them about a memory for both of you together instead of a physical gift for her. She can buy things. She needs you to bring her excitement.

jcrpta · 2015-03-28T21:13:47+00:00

I see there's two possible explanations for this:

It's a shit test that you're failing.
She's trying to find a nice way of telling you that you suck at giving presents.

rediscover03 · 2015-03-28T22:37:48+00:00

Classic SNL skit comes to mind https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=AbgPcwLTMWo

Title	What's the MRP solution to gift-giving?
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Date	March 26, 2015 8:48 PM UTC (9 years ago)
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