Same old rejection script, might as well work on my responses

abdada · 2015-05-22T18:03:39+00:00

Immediately stop doing any choreplay. Just stop. "I am too busy" or "I have other goals to attend to."

Hit the gym. 4 nights a week. Leave your cell phone at home.

Start working on who you are as a man, not who you are as a husband. You failed there, so get back to focusing on making yourself better. Becoming the best man you can be will lead to you being the best leader you can be in the household.

Stop apologizing, period. "I'm sorry" is out of your vocabulary." Replace it with "That's too bad" or "Wow".

Stop doing more work than is required of you. Put your dirty laundry in the hamper. If it doesn't get washed, hire a service to pick up your laundry.

Reconnect with male friends and spend a day a week doing stuff with them. Leave your cell phone at home.

casual_shanter · 2015-05-22T18:07:13+00:00

"Ok, cool." And mean it. OI.

Then disappear for the rest of the day or roll over and go to sleep. Be friendly to her, but don't give her any emotional support. She starts to talk about her day, say, "Sorry, babe, I got shit to do" and walk away or "I'm tired" and go to sleep.

Don't reward bad behavior on her part.

BluepillProfessor · 2015-05-22T18:30:09+00:00

I would not make crude or crass demands until you are regularly passing shit tests. Walk before you run. Thus "I want to fuck you" sounds needy and even pathetic.

All the answers she gives are pure hamster reasons. There is no script to memorize. Start by recognizing these are just more shit tests and begin using Amused Mastery.

"Two people? You don't say. So that means I get to decide when and how we have sex 50% of the time, right?"

"To much to do this weekend? There are two people in this relationship sugar plumb and I have plans to......"

"No pressure, babe. I am going to.....see you tomorrow."

See how that works? It's not a script, it's a lifestyle choice.

RPAlternate42 · 2015-05-22T18:35:37+00:00

Stop telling her you want her. Show her. I don't tell my wife this type of shit anymore and sure as shit don't text her about it. I corner my wife in the kitchen. I corner her in the bedroom. I corner her in the bathroom. When I do, I always kiss her. When I do, I always grab her ass. I do all this and then walk away. This is showing her you want her. It is action.
If you initiate sex and it turns starfish: "Nevermind. You aren't turning me on." and then leave the room. When I was rejected, I used some dumbbells in the living room to do some kind of workout or I would go downstairs and just watch some shows I'd been banking. The point is, starfish != sex. We never turn down sex, but starfish is the exception... because it's not sex.
Flip the script on her. When she wants you to do something with or for her, "I don't think so," or "we've got too much to do this weekend," or "it may be what you want but there are two of us in this relationship," or "I don't want to feel under pressure like this." the more ridiculous the pairing, the better: Her: "I want to go to dinner at x". You: "I don't want to feel under pressure like this." The key here, though, is that you must go do something else. If you remain, you just look like a passive-aggressive baby. The words are for effect, the leaving and doing something else is the message.
OI doesn't require any response. If she says something to the effect of "no," you only have to leave. One thing I did once was recognize the body language and I left as soon as she started talking. I don't even know what she said, but it didn't matter; the answer from her was "no" and my reply was, I don't give a shit.

If at any time you feel like you are hurting her feelings or being a bad husband, stop. Her feelings aren't your problem. You are your problem. You may feel weak and ineffectual right now and you should; you are.

Your SMV to her is not high enough. When you start noticing that women, and especially younger women are paying attention to you, start flirting with them. This will give you the practice for later. Who cares if you fail, you weren't going to do anything with the other girl anyways. When you are out in public flirt with the server girl, flirt with the barista, the cashier, etc. The service industry has no shortage of young, pretty girls and they are everywhere.

Remember, only once your SMV is high enough to be noticed. Once it's high enough to be noticed by others, your wife may not care until you can prove that it is high enough, hence the flirting.

In the mean time... get a hobby, build something, and lift.

dandar4600 · 2015-05-22T20:46:34+00:00

You can't negotiate attraction. If she's not into you nothing you say will make her want you unless you count occasional pity fuck. There are some tips in Married Man Sex Life Primer but there are no Open Sesame magic phrases.

UEMcGill · 2015-05-23T10:22:51+00:00

Start small. Don't be afraid of failure. Make sure you put things in terms of her saying "no" not "yes". So instead of "I want to fuck you" say "tonight you're getting fucked". The onus is on her to stop it not approve it.

"Can you put in the slinky stuff?" Becomes "put this on, meet me in the bed"

"I'd like a blow job" becomes "put on your Chapstick, cause I have a special purpose for your lips".

The idea is that it's happening, and she has to stop it, instead of she gets to allow it. Sometimes with married women they're too busy being moms, etc. that it's easier for their brain to accept things than give permission. Keep pushing until you get a hard no.

KyfhoMyoba · 2015-05-25T03:26:32+00:00

Do you even lift, bro?

Title	Same old rejection script, might as well work on my responses
Author	casual_shanter
Upvotes	5
Comments	35
Date	May 22, 2015 5:56 PM UTC (8 years ago)
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