So yea , I'm not even sure if this belongs in this sub , but I want to see if there is a MRP way of handling this situation. Myself and my LTR have a baby together(along with her kids from her previous relationship) , I would like the baby to have a great relationship with my parents (I've learned that family is important) and my parents watch the baby anytime we need them to. LTR's family is basically out of the picture and she only sees her grandmother regularly.

Generally we head down to my parents place every 6-8 weeks or so , let them spend some time with the baby. i'll give my dad a hand with any projects he needs help with or whatever. stay for a couple hours and head back . Also most major holidays we head down to my Family , like I said she is not close or doesn't spend time with anyone else in her family.

So since the baby was born my parents have totally showered the baby with attention and gifts , held a baby shower for us , tried to be the good little "in laws" and generally want respect in return.

The problem comes in where my GF unfortunately doesn't give them the respect in return, generally sits on the couch , plays games on her phone or is on facebook , not interacting with anyone, and is just in a total rush to get out of there as soon as possible. she openly tells me that " (insert my home state) is nothing but sluts and hoe's" which I generally ignore. But things like saying thank you , and sending out thank you cards when people buy things for the baby , or her kids , don't happen .And I hear the backlash of it that people generally don't want her around anymore, if she cant show them the respect they deserve

I know a lot of people will say well OI.. do what you want to do , and if she wants to come along as good girl , then she can .. but I'd rather not have big things like Christmas or Thanksgiving messed up , because people cant get along.

I'm sure i'll get flamed for this one but im hoping for some constructive ideas.