I've been pretty lean my whole life, I could eat whatever I wanted and it would burn right off. I was skinny like that when I first got with my girl. We both had a lot of fun going out and eating junk foods and spending our time worrying about things other than what types of calories are in that meal. Unfortunately as I get older, that strategy doesn't work as well as it used to. After many years of saying "fuck it, lets just order pizza", I discovered the red pill and got my slap in the face and decided I was done being a loser and wanted to improve myself. I knew it would be hard work but there was no going back as my eyes were already opened. The biggest first step I took was cutting out junk food and eating a ton of lean protein rich foods that would allow me to keep progressing on the SL 5x5 program. I basically ate chicken, rice, veggies, oatmeal, eggs and yogurt. Like, all day everyday, and basically overnight. The day before I ate a whole pizza, and now all I want is plain grilled chicken because I realized how disgusting I was. My girlfriend didn't mind at first; she has been a sucker for quick fix 30 day diets and stuff before. She probably figured it would be 30 days of starvation, then we would go back to normal. About 6 weeks in, she started to realize that this change was permanent.

This is when the shit tests started coming, and they will come for you too.

Food isn't supposed to be as delicious and easy as it is now-a-days. Food used to be a reward for strong and brave men, and now you can roll through a burger joint in your mobility scooter and get enough food to feed a small warrior tribe. Your ancestors ate raw eye balls and hearts, so you can eat bland chicken breast with rice and hot sauce. It can be tasty if you make it right, but at the end of the day, tasty or not shouldn't matter. Getting the nutrients your body needs to keep fighting and surviving and growing is all that matters. We've been lucky enough to live in a very fortunate time (at least in the west), and many people have grown accustomed to flavor injected, sugar added and good feeling inducing foods. Mcdonalds spends 3 Million dollars a day trying to convince people to buy their food. With that much money in the game, its bound to work on a lot of people.

My girlfriend is one of those people. She has never really been fat, but she enjoys the feelings that greasy fatty junk food gives you when you eat it. She'll take pizza over chicken and rice any day. Its no secret that women are more emotional than men, and fatty and sugary foods release good emotions in humans. Because of that, it wasn't a total shock when my girlfriend started resisting my dietary changes, but what I didn't expect was how hard she would test me over them. I have a strong feeling that most of you guys who make dramatic dietary changes like I did will also experience similar resistance. So I'm going to share a strategy that helped me get through these tests and push through the bullshit during this time.

One of the biggest reasons my girlfriend was testing my new diet, aside from general testing of my frame, is that eating clean and healthy can be very boring, and women absolutely hate being bored. Its exciting ordering out, it gives you something to talk about, the food is usually tastier, and you can order something different everyday. So, how did I keep my girlfriend from getting bored with my new diet and our new routine? I put her ass to work. As the Captain of your ship, you need to take control of your kitchen and what comes out of it and don't be afraid to delegate tasks. It's been known for awhile over on the main RP sub, that one of the most successful dating strategies is to invite a girl over, cook for her, but tell her what to do and order her around your kitchen. "Chop that while I wash this", "Wash this while I chop that" "Come here...hold this"...etc. Anytime you are telling your girl what to do, and she is doing it, she is in your frame and you are doing it right. Just make sure you know how to be charming and fun while you do it. Even if she isn't eating your grilled chicken, have her make a salad or something healthy that the two of you can share. Keeping her busy by bossing her around and teasing her will help her associate positive things with healthy cooking and eating. The cooking part is usually the hardest and most boring part of eating healthy, so learn to make it fun and it will go a long way.

Next, is to just focus on you. I get home and my girl tells me she wants to order pizza and just watch tv? I tell her great, enjoy, I'm going to eat oatmeal, or grill up some chicken. Eating dinner doesn't have to be a team event, and having the mindset that you need to eat the same meals together will only hold you back. You should already be putting yourself ahead of your wife, and should be the #1 priority in your own life, so taking care of yourself while she doesn't shouldn't be a hard concept to grasp. Just because you're captain healthy all of a sudden, doesn't mean that she will be too. In fact, she probably won't give two shits about what you're eating until she can see actual results. Eating all the lean foods in the world is pointless to her if it doesn't give you abs or increase your SMV. Don't waste your time arguing, explaining or trying to compromise. You are the only one responsible for what you put into your body. The beer gut, double chin, or fat arms might have been gained together with your woman, but at the end of the day you are responsible for yourself. If you get fat because you enjoy eating junk food with your wife every night, it won't matter at all to her when she decides to leave your ass for the hot gym coach down the street. At the end of the day, you're on your own and she isn't on your team. Too many guys get caught up on trying to get their women on the healthy and fit bandwagon, and ask for tips and tricks on how to do it and get frustrated that she isn't coming along. I could have probably spent an extra hour or two in the gym a week with all the time some guys spend trying to get their women to eat healthy with them. As we should all know around here, you cannot change her behavior, you can only change yourself. Don't argue, don't fight, don't guilt or shame, just STFU and eat healthy. As she sees you getting more and more attractive and fit, she will be more likely to adapt to your new changes and come along with you, and if not, its really not hard for a fit, attractive and confident guy to upgrade to a better women if he wants.

Feel free to comment about what worked/didn't work with your new diet and your woman. Also, whats your favorite hot sauce?

Mine are:

  1. Tabasco
  2. Tapatio
  3. El Yucateco

Franks Red Hot users please GTFO.