“This is your last chance. After this, there is no turning back. You take the blue pill - the story ends, you wake up in your bed and believe whatever you want to believe. You take the red pill - you stay in Wonderland and I show you how deep the rabbit-hole goes.” – Morpheus

Steel’s Guide to Married Red Pill (A)

Given some of the recent changes and the jump in subscribers, it is a good time to give a brief overview of MRP. Hey dude, got a minute? (A)... Let’s have a conversation (A).

What Is The Red Pill

For an answer to this, take a gander at podcast #31, start at 22:40.

Rollo’s answer - It will always be about intersexual dynamics.

Rian Stone – Game is red pill. You have to understand why things are happening and the way they are happening. He references this post (A) from back in 2009.

Rollo – Red pill is the theory, game is the testing of red pill.

Donovan – Not only understanding a woman’s true nature, but being man enough, or having the balls to act on what you know with red pill awareness.

Steel’s answer – The red pill, to me, is the truth behind intersexual dynamics between men and woman, and taking action based on that truth. Simple as that. The red pill is not “sit back, relax, and keyboard warrior away”, nor is it a wretched hive of scum and villainy. No, scratch that. We’re taking that label. MRP – A Sexual Wretched Hive of Married Scum and Villainytm.

Too many people are trying to define red pill, or have corrupted the definition. Make it simple. Intersexual dynamics and Game. That’s all.

What Is Married Red Pill

From the FAQ:

“We are men that subscribe to The Red Pill (TRP) philosophy of sexual strategy, and are dedicated to applying it in marriage or in Long Term Relationships. This sub was created independently to address the needs of married men to discuss relationships issues.

Our approach is different from /r/relationships and /r/deadbedrooms because those don't work. Instead, here we focus on how to become stronger men to lead our marriage and LTRs to happiness.”

Married Red Pill first is a locker room. There will be trash talk. Married Red Pill also is a laboratory. There is practical advice here. But sometimes you get a lot of spaghetti thrown up on the wall to see if it sticks. Keep that in mind.

Ultimately, Married Red Pill is a bunch of men swapping notes on what works and what doesn’t from a married perspective. If you don’t like that, don’t let the locker room door hit you on the way out.

For additional perspective on MRP and AskMRP, read this (A).

Rule Zero

Rule Zero: Stay On Topic

From ye olde TRP forum – “TRP's mission is to discuss men's identity, sexual strategy, and options in the context of our current global culture for the benefit of men. Anyone who does not share that goal will be banned the instant we detect them. We are not interested in debating or defending our experiences to those who disagree with the red pill, nor do we want to clog up our threads defending the morality of our choices.”

So, what does that mean for MRP? Rule Zero there is the same as Rule Zero here – mostly though we are married. Stay on topic. If you do not stay on topic, you will be banned and your post deleted.

If your post does not add value, your post will be removed. The moderators will continue to work to ensure the signal to noise ratio is correct.

What Do I Do First

You are expected to read the sidebar – all of the sidebar. You are expected to SHUT THE FUCK UP. You are expected to get up off your fat ass and go get a gym membership, and actually go to the gym. You are expected to lift heavy weights until it hurts so good at least three times per week. You are expected to stand outside on the porch for three days without food and endure all sorts of humiliation. Well maybe not standing on the porch. But you get the idea.

What don’t you do? Get an itchy trigger finger and write up a post without having done these items.

What do you do? You read this guide (A).

You chill out (A).

You start your work on the sidebar and wiki.

You make a decision to get better.

You make a damn plan.

You get to work.

STFU

If you are new, and reading this, I guarantee you that you have no idea how to STFU. Even guys who have been here a while still struggle with their STFU.

First of all, let’s cover this: you do not talk about fight club. You DO NOT TALK ABOUT FIGHT CLUB. YOU DO NOT TALK ABOUT FIGHT CLUB! However you want to phrase it, you STFU about fight club. There’s no point in stepping on your own dick.

Second, when your wife is fighting with you, you do not engage. Do you think that arguing with her and having verbal diarrhea of the mouth is going to get you anywhere? No. Are you trying to argue with a woman’s hamster? Newsflash: women’s hamsters eat logic and shit more hamsters. You need to STFU unless you want to deal with a shitton of hamsters.

Third, don’t open your mouth if what will come out of it is unattractive. Be attractive (A). Don’t be unattractive. Call it the attractive filter on your mouth. Don’t say stupid stuff. Don’t say stuff that makes you look bad. Just shut up.

Fourth, don’t go to your wife for validating behavior. So you lost five pounds. You fixed the things around the house you said you would. You bench-pressed more than the bar. You took the car for repairs and an oil change and got it running again. Good for you. Take that cup of STFU and drink it deeply. You shut up. You don’t talk about the stuff that you should have been doing anyway. You act like a man who has their shit together. Let me repeat that: YOU ACT LIKE A MAN WHO HAS THEIR SHIT TOGETHER. Men don’t go to mommy and say “Look at me and how well I did.”

Fifth, with regards to shit tests, if you are a beginner, you need to learn how to STFU. You will be tested once you start making positive changes in your life.

Sixth, verbal intercourse is optional (A). (Note - read the comments as well as the original post).

Seventh, you have to calibrate your use of STFU. You don’t eat paint and STFU like someone with autism. Adjust and modify your use of STFU as appropriate. This is one of the best definitions of STFU out there (A).

Eighth, if you are new, you are not doing enough STFU (A).

From our resident RP philosopher (A):

“We tell you to STFU because you play the victim, you overshare your fee-fees, you ruin any respect people might have had for you. As you learn, you want to get validated: Look, I'm figuring it out! Don't do that. If you do, you'll undo your progress. Cue bad feelings, poor self-concept.”

Drink your cup of STFU. Wash it down with some more STFU. And don’t forget to STFU.

Lift

Lifting is not optional. Lifting is your foundation for what you are doing here. If you have been a fence sitter, reading the books, but not doing any lifting or taking any action in your life, you’ve done nothing.

You need to get up off your fat unhealthy BMI ass and get to the gym.

Let me give you an example from a recent u/OsmiumZulu post:

“Pick up artist Owen from RSD and fitness YouTuber Connor Murphy.

Both of these guys get a ton of response from women. Owen overcomes his sub-average appearance by having extraordinarily tight game. If you watch some of his in-field videos you will see the that most of his pick-up goes like this: 1) Approach 2) Resistance and a gauntlet of fitness tests 3) Hold frame 4) more tests 5) eventually she becomes attracted to him despite his appearances On the other hand, Connor's physique works like a cheat code in a video game. His approaches basically go like this: 1) Approach (or get approached) 2) take shirt off 3) Get number close, kiss close, F close, whatever. “

Now I’m not saying that you are going to look like Connor Murphy. But let me ask you this question. If you were fit, hot, and in shape, do you think that it would be easier to attract your wife?

Would you be attractive to all women?

Just sayin’.

The sidebar has some information here (A), but you’ll find more on places like the Stronglifts subreddit or other similar subreddits. Similarly, you can find more information here.

You want some comparison lifts? Here you go (A).

And absolutely do not get fuckarounditis (A) at the gym. You have to understand, the iron will never lie to you (A). You need to focus, have a plan, do it right. Here is a great lifting post and plan. (A)

Personally, there are lots of choices for your lifting program, but I believe the best program is the one that you can stick with, the one that gets you to open that gym door over and over. u/bogeyd6 said it best, 75% of your problems can be fixed by lifting (A).

One final note. You will not be able to outlift a bad diet. You need to figure out what are macros – these, not these (this place needs more Excel jokes). You need to eat right. Check out the references below for some links (60 DoD section). Calculate your TDEE. Decide for yourself whether the food you are eating is helping you or hindering you. I’m a big fan of keto, but you have to figure out what’s best for you.

Sidebar

Here are the sidebar links:

The FAQ - https://www.reddit.com/r/marriedredpill/comments/7t5yly/guidelines_and_faq_updated_january_26_2018/ (A)

Glossary of Terms - http://archive.is/nxTLB

Other common MRP Terms - https://www.reddit.com/r/marriedredpill/comments/9g4edy/other_common_mrp_acronyms/ (A)

Guide for Beginners - https://www.reddit.com/r/marriedredpill/comments/2vykau/a_guide_for_beginners_to_mrp/ (A)

MRP Wiki (DO NOT SKIP THIS) - https://www.reddit.com/r/marriedredpill/wiki/index

Posting Quality Guide - https://www.reddit.com/r/marriedredpill/comments/4z84w5/posting_quality_guide_for_rmarriedredpill/ (A)

Course Prerequisites

No More Mr. Nice Guy, by Glover - https://www.amazon.com/No-More-Mr-Nice-Guy/dp/0762415339 , $15.47 on Amazon

The Married Man Sex Life Primer, by Athol Kay - https://www.amazon.com/Married-Man-Life-Primer-2011/dp/1460981731 , $18.99 on Amazon

When I Say No, I Feel Guilty, by Smith - https://www.amazon.com/When-Say-No-Feel-Guilty/dp/0553263900 , $7.19 on Amazon

Red Pill 101

The Rational Male - https://www.amazon.com/Rational-Male-Rollo-Tomassi/dp/1492777862 (note, get the paperback, because it’s harder to get rid of paperbacks than electronic books), $10.02 on Amazon. The website for Year 1 is free - https://therationalmale.com/the-best-of-rational-male-year-one/ , but I recommend getting the paperback.

The Mindful Attraction Plan - https://www.amazon.com/Mindful-Attraction-Plan-Practical-Creating/dp/149045151X , $16.99 on Amazon

The 16 Commandments of Poon - http://archive.is/tbNzv , free

The Book of Pook - https://bookofpook.neocities.org/ ; https://bookofpook.neocities.org/TheBookofPook.pdf , free

Red Pill Sidebar - http://www.redpillhandbook.com/ , free

"I get it!" "No, you really don't." - Triadis3 - https://www.reddit.com/r/askMRP/comments/7n0jcx/now_i_get_it_but_should_i_next_this_bch/dry5fsn/ (A)

I’m just going to pause for a second. Sidebar books cost $68.66. Think you can afford it? The real question you’ve got to ask yourself is, do you want to get laid? Well, do ya, punk?

Graduate Level

The Way of the Superior Man – David Deida - http://deida.info/the-way-of-the-superior-man/

The 48 Laws of Power, Robert Greene - http://www.amazon.com/The-Laws-Power-Robert-Greene/dp/0140280197

The Sex God Method, Daniel Rose

Advanced Reading List for MRP (A)

Moving to the General Awesome Guy Shit section:

The Red Pill Room - http://theredpillroom.blogspot.com/

How To Win Friends and Influence People, Carnegie – http://www.westegg.com/unmaintained/carnegie/win-friends.html (A)

A River Runs Through It and Other Stories, Norman Maclean

Zen and the Art of Motorcycle Maintenance, Robert M. Pirsig

IRC Chat Room For MRP Members - https://www.irccloud.com/#!/irc.quakenet.org:6667/#marriedredpill

Reference to /r/redpillfatherhood with your Daddy issues.

MRP also has a Video section on the sidebar:

BPP’s Book and Video Class on MRP - https://bluepillprofessor.wordpress.com/2015/05/22/hello-world/

RPC’s Advanced Video Class on MRP - https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCRCcXsJScfWlYHP5kHJqNbg

Entrepreneurs in Cars: Guys, Girls, and the 21 Convention - https://www.youtube.com/user/EntrepreneursInCars

Previous Sticked Posts that have been on the Sidebar

SteelSharpensSteel’s Breakdown: The Mystery Method - https://www.reddit.com/r/marriedredpill/comments/7aeibr/back_to_basics_mystery_method_the_game_and_the/ (A)

You Are What You Eat - https://www.reddit.com/r/marriedredpill/comments/3e3qc4/you_are_what_you_eat/ (A)

Body Language - https://www.reddit.com/r/marriedredpill/comments/3qkonn/lets_talk_body_language/ (A)

Don't fix her problem..Fix her feelz - http://archive.is/rZ7DN

New? Panicked or feeling Punch-Drunk? - http://archive.is/bAidd

dondreadpirates notes on plates while married - http://archive.is/pp1qm

Under Divorce Advice we have:

Red-Curious' Divorce Prep Guide - https://www.reddit.com/r/marriedredpill/comments/6tsban/why_im_not_afraid_of_divorce_rape_and_how_to_get/ (A)

Red-Curious’ Follow up 5-step functional introduction - https://www.reddit.com/r/marriedredpill/comments/79n1mz/and_so_my_journey_must_begin/dp3mr2o/ (A)

Red-Curious’ “Beta" Divorce Strategy Planning - https://www.reddit.com/r/marriedredpill/comments/9j5cus/better_beta_divorce_strategy/ (A)

The Art of War Sun Tzu explains how to handle modern relationships and Divorce - http://classics.mit.edu/Tzu/artwar.html (A)

Pre-empting the DV Charge - https://www.reddit.com/r/marriedredpill/comments/7cwvyk/preempting_the_dv_charge/ (A)

Tactics to minimize alimony. - https://www.reddit.com/r/marriedredpill/comments/7tic4x/fr_the_spousal_support_scam/ (A)

The Precursors to TRP section has the following:

Practical Female Psychology: For the Practical Man -

https://www.amazon.ca/Practical-Female-Psychology-Man-ebook/dp/B00RR6RNO6

The Red Queen: Sex and the Evolution of Human Nature - https://www.amazon.ca/Red-Queen-Evolution-Human-Nature-ebook/dp/B006O4227U

The 60 Days of Dread can be found in the References.

I would also add the following to your readings:

Top MRP Posts - https://www.reddit.com/r/marriedredpill/top/?sort=top&t=all

Gilded MRP Posts - https://www.reddit.com/r/marriedredpill/gilded/

You might ask yourself – why do these guys keep saying read the sidebar? - https://www.reddit.com/r/marriedredpill/comments/7ewrwd/why_do_we_keep_hearing_the_redundant_read_the/ (A)

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