I never hid things because I was taught to "man up" or "not show emotions". What I found was that other people just didn't care and didn't want to help.
193 upvotes | March 15, 2021 | by Forgetaboutthelonely
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CROSSPOST "I NEVER HID THINGS BECAUSE I WAS TAUGHT TO "MAN UP" OR "NOT
SHOW EMOTIONS". WHAT I FOUND WAS THAT OTHER PEOPLE JUST DIDN'T CARE
AND DIDN'T WANT TO HELP." FROM /R/TRUEOFFMYCHEST:

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I used to have really severe anxiety and panic attacks. And I was
ashamed of it. To the point that I hid it and bottled it up. Including
from my own therapists. It was not healthy.

However I don't think I hid things because I was taught to "man up" or
"not show emotions". What I found was that other people just didn't
care and didn't want to help.

The "suck it up" message came from a real place of _"we don't care
enough about you to help you, so we'd rather you not bother us with
your problems"_.

The big message nowadays is that people need to open up, but I think
that is a little misguided. It's not always that person's fault that
they're bottling things up. In fact it almost feels a little like
victim blaming.

What we need to do is tell people to care about other people who are
going through things. If other people cared enough to help, we would
speak up and take that help. Trust me.

PS: Reddit has always been very sympathetic and helpful. So thank you.

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Posted by Silver_Negotiation_2 | 13 March 2021 | Link
[https://www.reddit.com/r/TrueOffMyChest/comments/m48wig/i_never_hid_things_because_i_was_taught_to_man_up/]
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