Wife is Weaponizing Sex to "Win" an Argument
8 upvotes | March 2, 2018 | by cleanthes_conscious
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As the title suggests, she's making it clear that I'll receive a hard
"no" until I apologize for some bullshit from 5 days ago. I touched on
the bullshit in my OYS post this week.

Trusted contributors here seem to diverge on how to handle this.

/u/Red-Curious says in this thread
[https://www.reddit.com/r/askMRP/comments/7b5z3c/wife_addicted_to_weaponized_sex_impending_divorce/]
that:

> The only real way to avoid being butthurt is literally to act like
> nothing happened and continue offering to let her live alongside
> your awesome life. She says no? "Cool, another night. Want to drink
> some wine and do a puzzle then?"

I'd call that an _active-positive_ approach.

/u/strategos_autokrator says in this thread
[https://www.reddit.com/r/marriedredpill/comments/2zx4w5/another_good_discussion_on_weaponized_sex_over_at/]
that:

> This is not behavioral correction, but a boundary. You can't let
> that shit out of hand. Be honest: "You can do that, but I don't
> accept that in my relationships". You have to be strong about this,
> as this is the equivalent of a woman's nuclear option.

I'll call this the _active-negative_ approach.

Both approaches seem in conflict with the STFU and remove your time
and attention (_passive-negative_ ?) approach outlined in the reading.

My questions is, at dread level 1-2, do I have any other option than
to STFU, remove my time and attention, and nurse my sore balls alone?
Or, is this a special kind of sexual denial that requires a more
_active_ response?

This is the first time since I've swallowed the pill that sex has been
used as a weapon against me. I'm finding it hard as hell not to
engage, argue, and blow the fuck up. It's harder now that I'm
understanding the power dynamics at play.
 
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