Feedback on my 'Phase I' plan?
6 upvotes | October 23, 2017 | by wildnight98
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I've done an immense amount of reading over a short period of time,
made a ton of notes, and am trying to distill it into a concrete list
of what I should be doing over the next 60 days or so. Feedback
greatly appreciated.

"PHASE I" PROPOSAL _I guess this phase lasts a couple months until I
make good progress on diet and exercise?_

Background: I'm 50, decent shape, 188 lbs, 35% bodyfat (est, will
test), 5'10". I think classic drunk captain diagnosis fits best,
although I am thinking things probably went completely off the rails
about 12 years ago when she got a boob job.

Phase I Reading:

 	* Finish reading NMMNG _It describes me to a 'T'. I called my
younger brother to get him to read it. Our childhood is a poster child
for the diagnosis._ _I also note that my W suffers from father
abandonment which was caused by her mother (Mom left bio-dad)_
 	* Finish reading Sidebar _almost done with non-book materials_
 	* Next read MMSLP

Phase I Getting in Shape:

 	* Diet - done; ongoing, working
 	* Diet goal: lose 20 lbs by Christmas
 	* Exercise - scheduled, started (recruited secretary to enforce
schedule, keep clothes and towels at office, laundry service)
 	* Exercise goal: Following StrongLifts app workout plan to double
lift weights next 60 days, double tennis lessons to 2/wk 

Phase I Increase SMV:

 	* Order some new clothes to replace oldest boring stuff
 	* Go for new style; emphasis on masculinity

Phase I Start Figure Out Frame: _Apart from thinking about this more,
not completely sure what specifically to do?_

 	* Start thinking about pleasing myself instead of her
 	* Don't worry about whether she likes what I'm doing
 	* Plan a few weekend outings for me and the boys w or w/out her

Phase I Interaction with W:

 	* STFU
 	* Stop apologizing for anything
 	* Be a little more commanding and a little less solicitous _I'm
curious to see how far I can push this but will keep Rambo in mind_
 	* Ignore the ice-queen treatment _she can keep this up indefinitely_
(i.e. fake the confident frame for now, act happy anyways)
 	* Do the stuff around the house I want to and/or I think
needs/should be done 
 	* OMS (OYS?)

Thanks. I was in serious pain when I found this place. Being able to
have a plan that can actually be worked is a major blessing. Still
very angry but trying to use it for motivation.
 
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