How/When To Work On Improving Bedroom Dominance
6 upvotes | February 1, 2017 | by resolutions316
-------------------------
QUESTION: I want to up my "dominance" game (ala SGM) and improve my
initiations, but honestly it makes me a bit nervous. Is that a good
sign it's too early, and I should just focus on myself and forget
initiating?

Or should I work _through_ that discomfort and get rid of the fear of
failure by trying and failing/learning from the process?

-------------------------

CONTEXT: Hey all,

I've been working on MRP stuff for a few months now and have seen a
lot of real progress - broken a 1.5 year-long sexual moratorium,
looking much, much better, working on leading more, passed some major
shit-tests, gotten some IOIs for the first time in forever, etc.

But I'm still _working_ on those things, and frame/not being butt- is
a big weak point for me.

Right now, one of my area of improvement is initiating with my wife.
Historically, I've had shitty, half-assed initiations (the classic
"slowly rubbing your back for 20 minutes hoping you respond"). As I've
improved myself and read up on the subject, I've noticed my wife
exhibiting some signs of a "submissive" style of sexuality - she
doesn't lead in bed (expects me to), doesn't initiate overtly (just
kind of puts herself in my general orbit more than normal), takes a
while to respond to initiations, etc.

In short: she doesn't make it easy for me in any way, and I've had
trouble reading her responses or picking up on whether she's receptive
or not.

QUESTION: I want to up my "dominance" game (ala SGM) and improve my
initiations, but honestly it makes me a bit nervous. Is that a good
sign it's too early, and I should just focus on myself and forget
initiating? Or should I work _through_ that discomfort and get rid of
the fear of failure by trying and failing/learning from the process?

What's worked for you? Thanks!
 
-------------------------
Archived from https://theredarchive.com/post/206562