How did I handle this tricky situation?
6 upvotes | August 11, 2016 | by I_Took_The_Pill
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Hey guys,

Things have been going well since my recent fuckup
[https://www.reddit.com/r/askMRP/comments/4sbs1e/rebounding_from_a_fuckup/],
but I want your take on how I handled a situation today.

Wife gets home from work around 6:30, and we've got dinner planned. I
go to the gym, planning on arriving home around 7 to start cooking (I
do most of the cooking in our house, it's my thing.) I get home, she's
not there, and haven't heard from her. Practicing being less of a
needy bitch, so I don't text her.

At about 7:45 she calls me, she's just heading home now because she
went out for drinks after work with her coworkers. Fine. I'm a little
ticked off she didn't let me know but I don't say anything about it on
the phone. She picks something up in my voice though, and calls me out
on being mad. I tell her I'll see her when she gets home and hang up.

Minutes later I get a text from her: "You don't have to give me
attitude just because I don't want to be the person sitting on their
phone the whole time"

Obviously this is nonsense, I just wanted a heads up that she'd be
home late because I was coordinating dinner, but I STFU and don't
respond.

When she gets home I've managed to pull myself back into a good mood,
but she's clearly still bitching. I joke around with her about being
grumpy (I think this was a mistake, probably should have just ignored
her behavior) and she mentions something about my attitude again.

Here's where I don't know if I did the right thing. I was direct with
her, told her that I sounded pissed off on the phone because didn't
appreciate her not letting me know what her plans were since we'd
planned dinner, and that it would've been easy to send me a text and
give me some heads up. I also said that I found it disrespectful and
she seemed taken aback.

From there I just went right on cooking dinner and dropped it, back in
a good mood, and she stayed pissy for the rest of the evening. Steak
sandwiches came out good as fuck though.
 
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