Why post-breakup GF asks for reunion, but turns into a bitch once I'm about to accept?
13 upvotes | March 22, 2019 | by whatifitsfun
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I’m asking this here because my goal was to have an LTR which would
lead to having children. And it seems to me that on /r/asktrp I will
just be told to avoid LTR in the first place.

### Intro

This is was my first girl.

I went completely broke, I’ve been struggling financially for months
now, she's been bitchy for a while now and less than a week ago
proposed a temporary breakup. In response to that I made it permanent.
I was already contemplating breaking up long before this, but this was
the last straw.

Now she’s sending me a hundred messages a day. Complaining how I’m
a cold, heartless monster; an egocentric whiny brat who asks for more
than he deserves; and that no woman will ever love me like she does.

I mostly ignore them, because they contradict the truth and provoke me
to argue in defense, which is a waste of time.

But, a couple times she seemed to make a genuine effort to fix it. She
would say things like: “I can learn”, "I can adapt". So I took the
bait.

### Question

Once I begin to allow myself to be convinced by her to reunite with
her, she turns into a bitch again. It pisses me off and I withdraw.
She says the last few nasty things and then becomes nice again, so I
lean in again, and then she turns into a bitch. Again. What the hell
is happening? It’s so predictable it’s not funny anymore.

So now I haven’t been responding to her texts for a while, and with
each message she’s becoming more pleasant. Making me feel positive
about her again. But I’m not taking the bait a third time. And I
sure as hell won't reunite with her. I just want to understand what
this is.

.

What does she actually want?

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