Am I Holding Frame Well or Just Being Stupid?
13 upvotes | April 5, 2019 | by Keefe9973
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Hey guys this is my first post on here. I'm in an LTR expecting
marriage eventually if I choose to go down that route. This is my
first red pilled relationship and as time progressed I fell back to
beta blue pill habits and completely lost the frame. When you have
oneitis it's really easy to throw the red pill away and act like you
found the unicorn. We actually had a break up a few weeks back and I
followed some red pill wisdom and it worked to perfection. She came
back and fell into my frame and I was honestly blown away by the
results! It was at that point that I was completely sold on the red
pill.

Tonight my GF posted a story on her IG and her boobs were showing in
it. She has very big tits so she says it's hard to keep them out of
her page. She has posted more inappropriate pictures in the past and I
felt insecure about it and was acting to beta to say anything. This
time I DM'd her about the picture and said "Hot, but keep your tits
off the gram." She replied "You can't tell me what to do!!!" I had
been ignoring her texts during this time as well. About three hours
later I responded and simply said "I don't like my girlfriends boobs
to be on social media." In the past with her I have immediately jumped
into argument with her, DEERing regularly etc. This time, I think it's
because I've been staying fresh on TRP, I felt very stoic about the
whole thing. I am not mad, and I am not insecure about this. I simply
find the behavior inappropriate for my serious GF if I'm considering
you a wife candidate.

She proceeds to absolutely lose her mind. I run a fitness page on IG
so she called me a hypocrite to which I said something to the effect
of "I'm not arguing about my fitness page and you know that's
different. The topic at hand is you posting pictures on social media
highlighting your boobs which I don't like my girl friend to do." She
was really going berserk on me at this point. She called me
disrespectful, insecure, borderline abusive, a brat and you name it.
She told me she's way to nice and loving to me for me to treat her
this way. I simply replied and told her I was not mad or insecure and
restated I did not like her posting pics with her boobs in them on
social media.

This whole situation has really caught me by surprise. Perhaps my
being unfazed really pissed her off but I am just shocked at how angry
she became over this. It ended with her texting me saying not to text
her and she'd hmu sometime soon and I replied and said "uhhh okay
then. Goodnight I love you." I am doing my absolute best to remain
unaffected. At the end of the day this was not the best picture for me
to pick this battle with. She has posted many more in the past that
were significantly worse so I can see why she would be confused by me
making this rule. However I felt I needed to hold frame when she
refused to comply. I would appreciate feedback on how I am doing about
holding frame, what I should expect from here and if I made the right
decision reigning this behavior in. Ultimately she is a good GF and
typically submits to my leadership but at times she can get very
independent. Thanks in advance

First Edit: This is a quick edit but after reading the responses I
felt I should clarify my reasoning for telling her I didn't want her
to post these pictures. If she chose to continue doing so I could not
consider her for a LTR. If she doesn't comply it's fine, I will just
reevaluate how I perceive her. I saw it as a shit test and thought I
needed to maintain my boundaries. Should I expect her to reach out to
me after I ignore her and fall in line more? Anyways thanks already. I
appreciate you guys challenging me on all of this

2nd Edit: I would like to apologize for not having read the sidebar. I
have read it now. I read the LTR Checklist and realized I was way off
on this one already. I haven't ever been active on reddit much at all
before and just really needed to find somewhere to get advice as this
happened last night and I was all confused. I appreciate everyones
help. The brutal honesty has been helpful to smack me in the face
because I don't have anyone else to do it and I was raised beta blue
pill. I look forward to mastering red pill and helping anyone in my
position soon.

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