Validation vs sexual gratification
6 upvotes | May 2, 2019 | by ddhf
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Been reading up a lot on validation and seeing issues I need to
address. I'm curious to know where validation ends and just enjoying
good sex begins.

Been suffering from oneitis that turned out to be obsessive
infatuation, I have history of addictions so this makes sense. Some of
the posts on here recommend opening more options/plates but as I've
identified a need for female validation as a problem so wondering
where to go from here.

Is there such a thing as married monk mode I should do for a while?

Just for context the oneitis is not my wife, i haven't banged her or
touched her, just got some nice IOI's then went all needy, overeager
and available. Now I keep thinking about her and want to stop and move
on.

I appreciate this is just a field experience I'm learning from but am
hesitant to start approaching while I have external/female validation
shit to sort out.

Been lifting over 2 years, strength standards pretty decent, abs and
veins starting to show, dress well, get complimented a fair bit. Rest
of my shit (career, mission) is pretty fucking awesome. Just need to
work through internal stuff now and I'll be in a better place.

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