Need help setting a boundary
14 upvotes | August 8, 2019 | by Madddawg07
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Ok. On mobile so will make this quick.

I was being a pussy and looked through some of wife's text messages. I
justified it to myself as trusting but verifying.

As it usually goes, when you go looking for shit you'll probably find
some. And I did.

I wouldn't classify the messages as sexting but it was at least sexual
flirting. I know who the other dude is and they used to fuck around.
He's also married with kids. Let me say here that in swallowing the
pill I have had to acknowledge the fact that my wife may have already
cheated on me. I don't think so but I'll never know.

Here is the question. How can I make a boundary out of something I
snuck to find out about like a little bitch? How can I say to her "no
wife of mine will be texting other guys anything sexual"? The other
question is how to manage having this info. I've been pissed which she
noticed but I haven't said anything other than "what reason would I
have to be upset. Her response was "I know I'm not a perfect wife blah
blah. I think the right answer is to just store the info and monitor
the situation. I know for sure I shouldn't just bring it up and make
accusations. But right now I'm pissed and don't want to be around or
talk to her. She is just coming off shark week so I had planned on
Turing up the initiations but know I only want to hate fuck her. I
want to withdraw my sexual attention but I am ready to go after a week
of nothing. Resetting was basically non existent this morning and
going to be hard for me until I figure this out.

Also to add a little context to my situation. A few weeks ago while on
the first business trip at my new job- I got some strange. I really
should make a FR about it. It was dope and I've been feeling only
slightly guilty since then. So I'm being at least a little
hypocritical by being mad at her for texts when I went like 10 rounds
with a stranger. But hey amoral right?

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