I honestly don't know what to say..comfort test?
9 upvotes | September 9, 2019 | by throwawayloi
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Need some advice here fellas.

Me 26, wife 24.

Married a year and half and no kids. Been reading the sidebar,
lifting, STFU but i cannot lie...I don't post on OYS.

Wife and I have been constantly fighting for over a year now.

Last night is a prime example.

We both had a long day and were getting ready for bed when I decided
to show her a memory from my snapchat over a year ago that showed me
and her kissing.

She says "aww" and then shows me more from her phone, I politely smile
and nod and tell her that I have work in the morning and that we
should sleep. As we were getting ready to sleep..she hits with me with
her famous " you know..i''ve noticed" lines.

You know "I've noticed you don't take pictures with me anymore like
you use to when we first got married".. oh..shit not this again, i
think to myself. At she starts to DEER for me lol "is it because your
phone is slow", i agree and say yes. But wifey is not done ... she
wants more. So i say "i promise to change and be better...", still not
enough. I don't take BS and also whiny behavior so i just right out
say "because we were all over each other and were new with one another
"...boom. she starts to lose her shit.

starts cussing, saying "am i not good enough" now mind you its 12
am..and our apartments have paper thin walls. poor neighbors. I ask
her to lower her voice as she rants.. blah blah blah... she doesn't
listen. She wants me to apologize, forcefully -- like always, and i
decline. I double down and say "its my truth", i'm not gonna lie about
what i think, she gets even crazier. nothing is working at this point.

She says things like "you must not love me anymore huh? " am i not as
deserving?" "you've become like those guys huh...? as a matter of fact
all of those guys are better than you".. i look at her and then turn
over in bed and just sleep.

She flips her shit.. turns on all the lights in the room, raises her
voice even more, and starts to cuss like a sailor. I remain completely
quiet and turn over to the side of the bed. after a few minutes wifey
says "hey, can i get an apology please, your words hurt me." at this
point i just want to sleep, I say i'm sorry for making you feel that
way. She says can we hug it out..i say "no." she gets offended and
says you can forget about that apology. I respond with silence and go
to bed.

I woke up this morning ...and headed to work. so happy. no more
nagging for another 10 hours lol.

also, guys please go ahead and grill me. I will take any and all
pieces of advice.

also, for anybody wondering. I tried to explain to her what my words
meant, not explaining my behavior. I tried to say my words weren't
ill-intended or had any malice...so I gave her the benefit of
doubt..just more nagging.... and god do i hate naggers.

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