Seeking Godly Counsel 1/2 3 upvotes | January 22, 2020 | by Continuous-Metanoia ------------------------- Mission: Still in the works. -- God recently revealed to me that I'm called to be a pastor in another country. -- still seeking his face on the ins and outs of this. He called me to be a pastor early in my walk, but now with the addition of learning a new language, my time will mostly be dedicated to the theological study/language aquisition in preparation for this move. In the waiting period(Midian years), I am devoted to evangelism within my community. Stats: Age: 26, body fat: 17%, height: 6'2" weight: 190, lifts: 6 days a week. Bench-200 Squat-220 6 minute mile Not too out of shape, but just getting back into lifting Reading: sidebar in PDF, Its good to be a Man podcast, one new book a week. Finances: Upper Elementary Teacher. 50k, in debt 70k student loans. Having them paid off in next 5 years. Spiritual: Saved on June 24th 2017, pray through the Psalms everyday, have quiet times everyday, read scripture everyday, share my faith once a week, memorize Scripture: 0, involved in youth ministries at church. Involved in men's bible study, writing sermons on my own. First, I would just like to thank u/Red-Curious [/u/Red-Curious], u/osmiumZulu [/u/osmiumZulu], u/Deep_Strength [/u/Deep_Strength] u/rocknrollchuck [/u/rocknrollchuck] for the dedication and care you have pumped into these subs. The light of Christ shines through every post I see from you guys. You truly have blessed me. Although I've been lurking here for roughly a month, today was a pretty tough day, which is the reason for the post. I hope to find encouragment and advice for the following words. Background: 2 and 1/2 months ago I asked out a fellow co-worker (27f). I approached, we talked about our faith then I asked to go grab some coffee. She obliged and the date went ok. There are a number of factors that contributed to the mediocrity of the date: -I approached this girl and asked her out with the intention of marriage.(first seed of Onenitis) -I approached the date as trying to impress her, so as to convince her to go on more dates with me. -I approached the date as trying to be her friend, which created a semi-deadend sexual attraction for the rest of the relationship. On the third date we both wanted to pursue something more and agreed to keep seeing each other(I came off extremely beta during this conversation). Fast forward 10+ dates of myself planning everything, taking her out and paying for the majority of everything, I was starting to wonder if all this was the correct way of doing things. I remember standing in a bookstore and asking God to lead me to a book that could just give me some guidance. He directed me to the Rational Male. ------------------------- Archived from https://theredarchive.com/post/356405