**One Key Step To Not Giving a Fuck (Sidebar Post)**
703 upvotes | March 21, 2020 | by nevva_Again
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I found TRP 5 years ago while Google-searching “How to get out of
the friendzone”. Thankfully, one of the Google search results led me
to TRP where I read post after post after post; alongside articles
from Rollo Tomassi’s _The Rationale Male._

During my first four months of finding TRP I literally read TRP all
day long, day after day. I read through TRP posts as if I was studying
for an examination. I particularly enjoyed the comments section, they
were pure gold those day. You got even more revelation from the
comments than from the main posts. I read TRP so much that my eyes
began to hurt – literally and figuratively (“Why do my eyes
hurt?” – Neo).

However there was one theme I kept reading over and over, yet
couldn’t internalize: HOW TO STOP GIVING A FUCK. I won’t forget
that day I clicked on a Sidebar Article which had been posted a few
months before I found TRP – ONE KEY STEP TO NOT GIVING A FUCK
(Originally, THE GUIDE TO ACCEPTING YOURSELF EVEN WHEN WOMEN DON’T).
The poster deleted his account shortly afterwards. May the soul of his
account rest in perfect peace.

That post changed my life forever. I later realized that learning to
accept myself and not to give a fuck about many things is key to
developing many other traits such as Frame, Abundance, etc. The post
is on the sidebar, but throughout my 5 years on TRP, I have never seen
anyone refer to it either in a post or a comment; hence this post.
I’ll paste the original post here:

> Recently someone here posted about how women define "average" in
> astronomical terms, based on some bullshit a girl said while shit
> testing him. Most of the responses didn't understand that he was
> being tested because most of the commenters aren't ok with
> themselves at all.
> 
> QUICK METHOD
> 
> Know all those dating apps and sites you use? Know how you like to
> finely craft introductions designed to make the woman see you in a
> favorable light?
> 
> Don't do that.
> 
> Send any one of these messages that say, "I love me and I don't care
> if you do."
> 
> 1 - "Boners."
> 
> 2 - "Super boners."
> 
> 3 - "I'm going to be playing video games all week but you can come
> over this weekend and do my laundry."
> 
> 4 - "Do you ever get those crusties in your asshole and pick them
> out in the shower?"
> 
> 5 - "Want to help me practice for my driver's exam? The police said
> I can finally get my license."
> 
> These messages are not meant to get you a woman. The responses you
> receive (you will get responses) will show you how much better this
> type of "who really fucking cares right?" attitude matches up
> against, "Oh god oh god oh god I'd better say the right thing."
> 
> And that leads us to today's lesson:
> 
> YOU DON'T MATTER THAT MUCH.
> 
> Sorry, but if the fate of the world rested on your shoulders we'd
> all be fucked. You're reading how-to guides about becoming ok with
> yourself. So really you don't matter that fucking much.
> 
> And that's fine! That's preferable. It takes pressure off your
> shoulders. You can walk into a bar and tell a girl that you're a
> martian whose pants will explode at midnight unless an earth girl
> removes them with her teeth. Guess what? No one will care! Tomorrow
> CNN will run a headline about ISIS feeding babies to elephants and
> your pickup line will become just another blip in the endless
> history of the universe.
> 
> Corollary - Women will try to make you think that you SHOULD MATTER
> A WHOLE LOT. They'll tease you and ask you why you're not a buff
> macho kingpin or why you don't own 10 businesses and a thousand
> dogs. The important thing to notice here is: _That's what they say,
> not what they think._
> 
> Most women wouldn't give ten shits about your income or dog breeding
> knowledge if you are ok enough with yourself to show them a good
> time. Confidence does not come to you by knowing that you're big
> stuff and that you're a huge valuable part of society. If it did,
> hardly anyone would be confident because hardly anyone actually
> matters that much.
> 
> Confidence comes with knowing that you don't matter that much and
> that other people really don't either, women included. So if it's
> not that big of a deal, what do you have to lose?
> 
> Nothing.
> 
> LITTLE PEOPLE OFTEN HAVE BIG PRIDE.
> 
> It helps them not feel little. It's a defense mechanism. Being
> defensive is itself a small and impotent thing to do.
> 
> Pride weighs a lot. It's one of the biggest forms of baggage and
> some of you have been feeling it in your chest for years without
> realizing it. It comes in the form of thoughts like, "What am I
> going to be doing a year from now? Two years from now? If all my
> dreams aren't coming true, I'm a worthless piece of shit."
> 
> Or, "I need the perfect body, most money, and biggest adventures or
> I'll be a drain on humanity, just another turd in the bucket."
> 
> Or, "If I don't bang every hot chick and turn into a fuck stud of
> epic proportions, I'm just another waste of space."
> 
> Guess what?
> 
> People who don't care if they get ass...get more ass than you.
> 
> People with shitty bodies who don't give a fuck...get more ass than
> you.
> 
> People who have zero ambition and are ok with that...get more ass
> than you.
> 
> IF IT IS TRULY YOUR AMBITION IN LIFE TO BECOME SOMETHING GREAT, THEN
> YOU WILL FOLLOW THAT AMBITION NO MATTER WHAT. You won't dither about
> it. You won't get confused and wonder if you're doing the right
> thing. You definitely won't beat yourself up about not doing it.
> 
> So if you're an ambitionless ham planet and you absolutely love your
> life, there's no reason to qualify yourself to women ever. If you're
> a healthy cut millionaire and you hate your life, well I can't help
> you with that. .0001% problems.
> 
> So make a list of the shit you love about yourself that women would
> call "immature" or "irresponsible" and then realize that shit is all
> in your head. Almost anything you do (short of rape and murder) can
> be awesome and praiseworthy if you love doing it and you're solid
> about that to the core.
> 
> Women will prod at you all day and shit test, saying, "Well a mature
> real man is like this," or, "I can only be with a man who blah blah
> blah." If you aren't ok with yourself, you'll cave to this type of
> bullshit instantly. If you're fully ok with yourself, you'll laugh
> it off and continue on being you.
> 
> REMEMBER THIS:
> 
> There are no rules for life other than eat, sleep, breathe, and
> survive. The rest is completely made up. Clothes? Optional. Words?
> Optional. Bathing? Optional. Dating? Made up. Relationship
> standards? Fiction. Breeding? Unnecessary.
> 
> You could wake up tomorrow and pretend you're an African prince who
> has to drive backwards to work or else the mafia will come and steal
> your asshole. And that would make only marginally less sense than
> people driving to the same workplace every day to get money to pay
> for a piece of the planet they were born on which can be taken away
> by a group of people in a big building with giant metal rooms full
> of green paper.
> 
> So you don't matter that much and life is ridiculous. You couldn't
> possibly make life any more ridiculous than it already is. So don't
> go around acting like every little action matters.
> 
> Accept yourself.

God bless the original Poster.

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